The disagreement was on associating it with an authoritarian personality type. I’ve seen authoritarian types who are on both sides of the fence on this very issue.
Sounds like the culture of male machismo in my old NYC neighborhood prevalent among male peers and fathers/older male neighbors is one of that…cept the “no” may be in the form of being yelled at for being “too whiny” with some possible servings of a few knuckle sandwiches.
While I agree that culture is very unhealthy, I couldn’t help, but muse at how many of my older male college classmates with a tendency to vent/complain endlessly over matters they could have easily handled themselves if they put their minds to it were exceedingly sheltered in their upper-middle class suburban/well-off urban enclaves and would not have lasted 5 minutes in my old NYC neighborhood or even at the less violent, but no less intolerant of venting/endless complaining atmosphere of my STEM-centered public magnet.