<p>This is the classic scenario of a FWB relationship gone bad. I liked the guy a little bit too much and got attached. Today, I got a rude awakening at his place when I entered his bathroom and discovered his clothes and a pair of black bikini strewn on the floor…Yeah, I felt incredibly stupid because I fell for his stupid lines and now my ego is bruised. I should’ve known that he was seeing other girls. It’s an understatement to say that I was the one who got hurt. Oh boy. Do you guys have any good/bad FWB stories to share?</p>
<p>^^ y FWB isn’t a good idea imo</p>
<p>Freshhhh87, I am not joking when I say the following. I suggest you read, if you already haven’t, “He’s Just Not That Into You”. </p>
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<li>That book is amazing and extremely insightful.</li>
<li>You deserve better than to ever have to settle for a “friends with benefits” situation. 3. You deserve a guy who is completely into you and only you.</li>
<li>If a FWB situation does arise, get out of it as soon as you begin to feel any kind of emotional attachment/investment to your **** buddy. Men, more so than women, can have sex without getting their feelings involved. It’s much more difficult for women and we always end up on the worse end of the deal because of it.</li>
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<p>^ Agreed.</p>
<p>Except for me, I cannot have any kind of relationship without feelings in it.
and I wouldn’t have sex just to have it, I need emotional connection.</p>
<p>Or the 3 points of love: Commitment, passion and intimacy</p>
<p>I think FWB works in thoery but not in practice. Sure both parties can be totally upfront about their lack of feelings and ground rules can be set, but someone always ends up liking the other more.</p>
<p>Sassy6519 hit the nail on the head about guys and sex. The trend that women tend to start to attach after having sex is the exact reason why guys tend to avoid virgin girls. Unless you are prepared to go bf/gf it will end in a **** storm.</p>
<p>Sassy, you’re right. Women engage in sex to get love and guys use love to get sex. This proves how different men and women think about sex and love. Deep down I knew the FWB wasn’t going to last forever because it usually doesn’t. However I didn’t want it to end with me finding clothes everywhere and that DAMN BLACK BIKINI! Ugh. lol sorry folks but I’m still kind of ****ed. I’ll read that book and let you know how it goes. <3 thanks ya’ll</p>
<p>I’ve had one that ended very badly (finally started dating the guy I was hooking up with for ages, I was REALLY into him… and he promptly dumped me 4 weeks later for a girl IN HIGH SCHOOL… that one tore me up for a long time) and one that went fine because neither party was attached (it “ended” because we just stopped talking to each other, basically. no big deal). I also had a guy that I dated and we were both so busy that it basically evolved into a fwb situation because whenever we did finally get the chance to see each other, all we did was have sex.</p>
<p>So I don’t think necessarily they are bad, you just have to know for damn sure you will not want to move the relationship out of sexual territory. You CAN NOT do it if you are at all interested in them in more than a sexual way. Made that mistake once, will never do it again.</p>
<p>Get yourself some ribs and some ice cream because you have been dumped.</p>
<p>You knew what you were getting into. Don’t act so surprised. </p>
<p>Can’t stand the heat, get outta the kitchen. I hate spouting generalizations, and believe many women enjoy non-monogamous lifestyles.</p>
<p>I used to have this great FWB, but then I made the dumb mistake of also making his roommate my FWB. Of course, they talked to each other about it and both agreed to stop hooking up with me because their friendship matters more. So now I lost not one, but two great hookup buddies. And that is why I sit home on Fridays eating Easy Mac by myself.</p>
<p>I am a complicated chick, no doubt about that. I say I want the no-strings relationship but once I have that, I want the “real” deal. <em>rolls eyes</em> Can’t make up my damn mind. At this rate I’m never going to get married and pop out kids.</p>
<p>“At this rate I’m never going to get married and pop out kids.”</p>
<p>open marriage?</p>
<p>I’m pretty happy with no-strings relationships at this stage in my life. I’m always working/traveling, and there are so many great people to meet. I wouldn’t want to miss out on someone amazing because I’m tied up with someone else. I don’t see why college kids would want to get into anything too too serious at this stage in their lives.</p>
<p>^^i always felt that way too, but then i fell in love. funny how that happens when you’re not looking for it.</p>
<p>I don’t get why girls always go with jerks and feeling angry about it. I guess that’s their fault for being so naive. Nice guys are out there too but girls don’t seem to bother with them.</p>
<p>I don’t think girls purposefully date jerks. I believe one of the following happens instead:</p>
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<li><p>Guys that have jerky behavior hide it during the beginning of the relationship and unleash it later onto their unsuspecting partner</p></li>
<li><p>Guys that have jerky behavior may be more inherently confident than the typical nice guy, which can lead them to ask girls out more often, and subsequently dating and breaking their hearts later more often. This can create a disproportionate effect on how guys view our dating behavior. Men will say “Women seem to date only jerks” when in reality there is just a higher proportion of men who behave like jerks dating women than nice guys.</p></li>
<li><p>Guys that have jerky behavior are usually the “Alpha male” type, which women are evolutionarily drawn to because they usually have the best genes and the highest levels of testosterone</p></li>
<li><p>Women are masochists and enjoy the pain of chasing after men who simply don’t want them or “just aren’t that into them”</p></li>
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<p>Take your pick…</p>
<p>some guys act nice at first and turn out to be major jerks later on. It happens fairly often. </p>
<p>Personally, I’m not really looking for a serious relationship right now, because I’m about to graduate in two months, but if it happened, I guess I’d go with it.</p>
<p>Quick! How do I hide my ugly personality so chicks will like me?</p>
<p>Sorry to hear about that. </p>
<p>I think I was born in the wrong time period…I was hoping to meet future hubby in college and that’d be sufficient for me :p.</p>
<p>I think dating back then was much simpler because people dated for the purpose of finding their potential husband or wife. I like to call it ‘mission dating’.</p>