<p>I can see how doctors are damned no matter what they do. For example, I have a relative with no insurance, and when she went to a gyno, a full battery of STD tests was run, even though she stated that she was married.</p>
<p>On the other hand, when I went to a new gyno, I said that I was married, not unfaithful, and that I’d tested negative for everything with the birth of my son in 1999. I told her that my husband says he’s faithful. When I came back for a follow-up, I discovered that she didn’t test for any STDs. I was disappointed and did not return. I considered that to be sloppy, like she didn’t look out for me, what if my husband was a louse?</p>
<p>To the last few posts, my daughter is afraid in general of the pain of any vaginal invasion. A member of my family did have to get a gyno as a virgin and has been vocal about how it hurt. Girls that she knows have been vocal about the pain of their first intercourse. I think that it really boils down to fear of pain. However, she’s not stupid, she’s very practical, so I think that if her situation changes to make the exam necessary before age 21, she’ll get it. </p>
<p>I agree with the prior statements about ruling out pregnancy, it was simply a urine or blood test, but she was offended that she wasn’t believed. While she was asked about sex while I was in the room, she was also asked again when she was sent to pee, and I was not there. Again, I understand that the situations above, I’m just wondering if there’s a better way to handle it without undermining trust. How many virgins end up pregnant? The gyno exam talk went on at this ER visit, because if her pain had been lower, she would have had to have one. As it turned out, it was the food.</p>
<p>About the HPV, this is pretty disconcerting. One of the women that I spoke of earlier, her husband had warts frozen off before they met, but he had one reoccurence after they met. She told me that he was told that the virus exists in the wart and was removed when frozen. This did not seem accurate to me, I’d think that it is in the body, but manifests or doesn’t. Although this confuses me, because as a child, I had warts on my fingers, and they didn’t come back.</p>
<p>Anyhow, this woman had some kind of test, which was negative for HPV. How can this be possible after years of sex with him? And she has birthed her children naturally. Should she be concerned that they have the virus too?</p>