But is the proportion of activists amongst the “highly educated, high SES” people on CC larger than the proportion of activists amongst the “highly educated, high SES” people that we might hope/expect our kids would choose as partners?
I’d say probably yes. Your average highly-educated high SES person isn’t hanging out on a college forum decades/years after they’ve graduated from college so the groups are definitely not comparable.
But more importantly, the average person hasn’t graduated from a 4-year college at all. Nationally, less than 35% of adults aged 25+ have a bachelors degree or above. This discussion about politics influencing dating decisions seems to be something highly-educated progressive women go on about - your average gal working in retail may lean left-wing but probably will be more amenable to dating someone more conservative etc.
Absolutely - I think Chump Lady’s comments section is a gold mine for greater understanding of human psychology (the deeper posts, anyway). A tremendous resource in contemporary vernacular.
I had to think about it but I don’t think Rita’s list would necessarily be any different. Wishlists are personal. Sometimes they’re influenced by what’s considered “in”. Sometimes the wishlist reflects that individual’s experience. Most of Rita’s list…humble, kind, funny, intelligent, supportive…seems pretty generic to me.
However she does say some specific things like plays an instrument and loves his mother. It made me think maybe she was describing traits with someone in mind. It could be her dad or maybe even a celebrity. Who knows?
I will say I found it funny that Andie MacDowell’s character only agreed to the coffee when Phil added the donut.
My date, a 27-year-old woman I matched with on Hinge, said gender equality didn’t mean men and women should pay the same when they went out. Women, she said, earn less than men in the workplace, spend more time getting ready for outings and pay more for reproductive care.
The author should be grateful that his date revealed her dysfunction so early. Run away!
I’ve recently discovered The Diary of A CEO with Steven Bartlett podcasts. The one I listened to on my walk this morning is from Oct 1, 2023 called The Relationships Professor: “It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! with Scott Galloway.
It is a thoughtful, provocative discussion that touches on so many topics we see here on CC…suicide, changing gender roles/expectations, fewer marriages and children, AI, parenting, even the height factor when seeking a mate!
One doesn’t need to accept or agree with the views and opinions of the guest, but it’s an interesting respectful exchange between two people. In my opinion Steven Bartlett is able to converse without becoming defensive or agitated or disagreeable. He seems curious and genuinely interested in trying to understand his guest’s perspective.
Note: I’ve only listened to maybe a half dozen of Steven Bartlett’s podcasts, but I’m enjoying them. I also recommend this episode from Dec 17, 2023: The No.1 Menopause Doctor: They’re Lying To You About Menopause! Brand New Science! (Men Need To Listen Too!): Mary Claire Haver
If you prefer to watch a video of the podcast it’s on YouTube…Diary of a CEO Scott Galloway from Oct 1, 2023.
With an unattached short son, I’m a bit over this height issue - intelligence, kindness of character, humility and humor should be the attractors. Ughhhhhh - mother of 3 boys here
The guest, Scott Galloway is a father of two sons, raised by a single mother. He has serious concerns.
I’m a mom of a son and a daughter. My perspective leans “female”, but I’m sensitive to and aware of the “male” view/implications too.
That said we cannot and do not control people. In general we don’t believe in forced, arranged relationships…though I realize some cultures do.
In this case I feel the podcast guest gives practical, sound advice to young men, while expressing caution for the current path we, as a society, are on.
Thank you for sharing that podcast. I listened to it just out of curiosity since that title had me rolling my eyes, but it turned out to be quite interesting and presented different perspectives that I don’t normally encounter in daily life.
Yes. The title is “not great” and “eye rolling inducing”. Lol
But the podcast is very good! I hope a lot of people who posted on this thread take the time to check it out. I’m glad you liked it and didn’t feel like it was a waste of your time.
Don’t worry about your sons’ prospects. My dad and his brothers are all between 5’3" and 5’7"–none had trouble dating or marrying. There are plenty of women who don’t care about height.
I’m in the same boat. S24 is 5’5” and will probably not get any taller at this point. It feels ridiculous to be concerned about height, but I can’t help it.
Don’t even give it a moment of worry! My boyfriend from college, a great guy, was 5’5" and I never thought twice about it. We parted on good terms for graduate school, and he ended up marrying a gorgeous woman, is rich, and has beautiful children. So do not fret!
