Gender divide amongst 18-29 year olds

[Rivet2000]

CC matchmaking service ??

[ChoatieMom]

I’ve suggested that several times with no traction. Now that our son is married, I have no skin in that game, but CC is looking for value-added services to attract paying users, so perhaps a Chances-like “Match Me” forum would be just the ticket:

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5’2" English major (crochet and philosophy minor) daughter with 4 cats, 3.7 GPA, and minimal student debt from an east coast test-optional LAC. What are her chances for a 5’4" cat-loving, poetry reading engineer from a T20 with no student debt, 4.0 GPA, and six-figure income? Flexible on height. Will provide detailed CC stats upon request.

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ETA: ^^^(Not meant to be taken seriously; I don’t have a daughter )

[threeofthree]

I’ve got a 5’4" aerospace (bachelors) and mechanical (masters) engineer son, not from a T20, but making 6 figures, only has 1 cat but wanted 2 - not sure about the poetry thing but was an IB Diploma kid so reads a lot of interesting things. Paying off his small student debt on time, paid off his car a year early, saves for his vacations, and pretty close to maxing his 401k each year. He’d kill me if he knew I did this.

[OregonMom2024]

This is also the Covid and mass shooting generation. Fair to say they have reasons to be disillusioned about the future.

[hebegebe]

@Rivet2000

CC matchmaking service ??

Well, CC is looking for premium subscription options.

[ChoatieMom]

I hope everyone got that I was very much joking in my previous post. Just trying to help the CC powers-that-be consider a valuable premium subscription option. Not.

[threeofthree]

Mine’s real!

[OregonMom2024]

lol I’ve got a daughter who is 5’ 10 and is horrible at math. Her last boyfriend was shorter than her. Let’s match them up, she can get stuff out of the high cabinets and he can do the math homework . The cat may be a dealbreaker though….

[Twoin18]

This is all pretty depressing (and mentions height too):

Generation Swipe

[rockymtnhigh2]

wow- interesting

[sly123]

Thank you for recommending that podcast. It was mind opening and enabled me to spot my own biases.

[AustenNut]

I just finished listening to the podcast today, and thank you for sharing it, @88jm19. I agree that it is a very thoughtful discussion to listen in on.

I found Scott Galloway’s thoughts very interesting, but I think they might be more a propos for a different thread, perhaps a new one or this one. Thoughts?

Why is there a lack of attention given to male students to help them succeed?

I think it’s great that most colleges/ universties have entire departments emphasizing “women studies” and helping women to succeed in college. But, it seems that the male students are falling behind and are being ignored somewhat. Don’t you think it’s a bit strange? What can be done to help the male students to succeed, in the same way that female students are being helped?

[88jm19]

Yes the podcast could fit in many of our discussions. Feel free to add it anywhere you’d like. I think a lot of CCers would like it…if one ignores the title! Lol

[FallGirl]

@fiftyfifty1

Don’t even give it a moment of worry! My boyfriend from college, a great guy, was 5’5" and I never thought twice about it. We parted on good terms for graduate school, and he ended up marrying a gorgeous woman, is rich, and has beautiful children. So do not fret!

Similar story here. Dated a great guy in college who was about 5’6" (I’m 5’7"). He was smart, funny, fit, and an all around great guy. We split up, but he married a really cool woman (much cooler than me!), has had a great career and kids.

[FallGirl]

@Why is there a lack of attention given to male students to help them succeed?

I think it’s great that most colleges/ universties have entire departments emphasizing “women studies” and helping women to succeed in college. But, it seems that the male students are falling behind and are being ignored somewhat. Don’t you think it’s a bit strange? What can be done to help the male students to succeed, in the same way that female students are being helped?

I have never thought that “women’s studies” (and any ethnic studies) were created to help women succeed in college. I think they were created because the “norm” has always been white and male. For many years women’s accomplishments/contributions have been ignored and it’s only recently that they have been acknowledged. In addition, it is a different experience being a woman verses being a man in this world. Different in the way a woman has to conduct herself, different expectations, different in many ways.

[AustenNut]

Oh, the thread went into a different direction from that initial post, and the “women’s studies” bit is a bit of a red herring. But you raise a good point that people who weren’t already in the initial thread might not be as inclined to read the 173 posts that are already there to see how the conversation meandered. I’d say that around post #17 is when the shift started happening: Why is there a lack of attention given to male students to help them succeed? - #17 by Illinoisparent12

For a very brief recap, some of the topics were:

• Younger men are struggling on a larger scale
• Some opportunities are increasingly geared toward females without coed/male equivalents
• How asking for help is gendered
• Dynamics in clubs/classes with a majority of males
• How K-12 education is structured to favor certain behaviors/learning styles
• The gender of staff in K-12 and in higher education
• Whether the issue is an item for personal responsibility or societal concern

[AustenNut]

For anyone who wants to discuss, I’ve created a new thread:

Males Under 35: Are they struggling and what can be done about it?

In a different thread with more than 350 posts, @88jm19 shared information about a podcast. Although it relates to some of the themes discussed in that initial thread and in this other one (make sure to make it past the first 16 posts if you plan on reading it!), those threads have already been pretty well-established (ahem, lengthier) and might be intimidating for others to join the conversation. Thus, I’m starting a new thread for discussion. For those who prefer text to audio/video, here are a couple of resources: The various topics/headings discussed A transcript of the podcast A so-so summary of the podcast (it’s a summary, but the actual discussion was much richer) I will say that the title of the podcast episode (and the other thread title) can be misleading, but if you look at the content that is shared, it’s thought-provoking. I’ve retyped part of the transcript below, which was probably a computer-generated one, so not perfect, but I think it provides some context abo…

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