<p>Thanks to everyone. I worked the whole thing out. She seemed a little bit upset, but still kinda understoood. She wasn’t that upset since we are right next to each other. Thanks again!</p>
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<p>Congratulations! You have completed a very important lesson in life about the challenges we face. This is only the beginning, but if you could handle this, other things won’t seem so big. Store this one away in your mind so you can remember how you faced a challenge and survived!</p>
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<p>After you get to college, keep in mind all the advice given to you in this thread. You’re off to a good start. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and want to make the most of your college experience by forming new friendships. But don’t cave in to her emotional blackmail.</p>
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<p>I think the dads here have it right. You are acting as immature as she is! Be kind, but be honest. You’ve created a situation that never had to be this problematic by letting it drag on & lie to her. The housing department has every right to offer a one sentence answer – “OKgirl has not requested you as a roommate.” It’s the truth, and to expect them to take the heat & pretend that their incompetence caused a different roommate assignment is just childish on your part. They CAN’T give this girl the outcome she is requesting because YOU don’t want it. Why should they be hassled by the girl because of your cowardice? Do you realize how many hundreds of roommate problems they are currently juggling? Be reasonable.</p>
<p>Great job!</p>
<p>You did OK, girl!</p>
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<p>Good for you OKgirl, but be careful with her living so close to you. It seems like she may become a little clingy/needy.</p>
<p>Good job. There are many ways of telling people “no.” It doesn’t always need to be in your face or be brutally honest. In the corporate world, people are regarded immature if they couldn’t tactfully say no to others and are confrontational. So, I think OP handled this very well by the fact she got the outcome she wanted and her girlfriend is still speaking to her.</p>
<p>Glad you got it resolved.</p>
<p>My kids blame things on me (with my permission) all the time - I tell them that if they don’t feel comfortable, just say it was my fault. I have big shoulders. </p>
<p>Can I borrow your car - “My mom didn’t get insurance that lets me loan it to other people”.
Can I borrow your computer - “Sorry my mom bought it and won’t let me”.
And one about college roommates you could use (my older D did) -
“I should have told you before, but I was embarassed. My mom won’t allow me to room with anyone I know in college. She’s all about me meeting new people!”</p>
<p>Oops! Didn’t read the whole thread and just saw you got it resolved! That’s a weight off your shoulders! Now go enjoy being an upcoming freshman!</p>
<p>wow, that is so weird. no one freaks out about that. especially since even the best of friends choose not to room with each other because they want to meet new people/don’t want to risk the chance of having roommate issues.</p>
<p>Let us know how you like the roommate you end up with.</p>
<p>I agree, this is so out of proportion, there are a lot of red flags flying. OKgirl, keep setting limits for this person - soon the issue may be what classes (or sections) you take together, whether you eat together for meals, etc. That’s why the “blame mom” scenario is not the best - you need to let the needy person know that you have some control in the relationship.</p>
<p>^she actually wanted us to take all the same classes. I put my foot down on that one real quick.</p>
<p>Good for you! It sounds like you’re ready to spread your wings and fly.</p>
<p>Great job!</p>
<p>Remember you will have a housefellow/resident assistant you can discuss things with if she seems to be a problem at school, don’t let little things pile up or get out of control.</p>
<p>Here’s a little update:</p>
<p>Another girl from our high school actually decided to attend our school for financial reasons. The girl that wanted to be my roommate is now sharing a room with her (they are a lot alike (same culture, overprotective parents, early bedtime, constant studying, etc) and I think it should work out very well). I’ve talked to my random roommate and we get along pretty well (She’s not exactly my ideal roommate, but we do have a lot in common and I think it could work out). All is going good so far and the girl who wanted to be my roommate is now finally understanding and actually kind of accepting it. We still talk and hang out. I guess you could say that everything is going well so far! Hopefully it won’t change much once school starts!</p>
<p>Hurrah! Well done!</p>
<p>Thanks for letting us know. :)</p>
<p>Learning to stand your ground tactfully when someone is trying to push you to do something you know is wrong for you is one of the most important lessons in growing up. Congratulations on handling it well, and next time something like this happens (and unfortunately, you’ll run into emotional blackmail again) you’ll have this experience under your belt to help you handle it. See, you haven’t even gotten to college yet and you’re already learning valuable things!</p>