<p>Asa mother, I have urged my kids to just blame me as an easy out. We laugh about it, but it gets them out of sticky situations. Mothers actually don’t mind in the least getting this blame! We are delighted to help out our kids. Trust me, your mother won’t mind a bit being used–in fact, didn’t you say she urged you to use her? I say, go for it. </p>
<p>This girl sounds very emotional and pushy and spoiled. Polite and avoidant would be the way I would handle her.</p>
<p>Just read the end of the thread, and glad it worked out, but use your mom if ever you need a graceful way out. That is what we are for!</p>
<p>OKgirl, just one point: remember that YOU are probably not your random roommate’s ideal either! If you both have a positive attitude about it and are considerate, there’s no reason why it shouldn’t work out.</p>
<p>^I know that I’m probably not her ideal either, but we both seem to be considerate. It’s not that I don’t like her, it just is that I was hoping for someone from in-state because it seems like it would be easier to have a weekend in the dorm alone (I doubt this girl will be going home often since she’s from the far east coast). She’s also really into country music (which I sometimes listen to, but it isn’t really my top music choice). The things she really likes are the things that I kinda like. Meeting someone from that part of the country should also be a bit of a culture shock. I actually think it will be good that we have kinda different interests so that we can introduce wach other to new things.</p>
<p>My D had a roommate with whom she had absolutely nothing in common (and I do mean that). D was bummed out, as I am sure you are … but it wasn’t the worst thing ever, and she survived the year. You can’t imagine how many awful roommate stories we parents could tell you! If you simply don’t have much in common, at least that is workable. There are plenty of other students to get to know! :)</p>