<p>I know some guys are turned on if they get to have sex with a virgin, and conversely a bit turned off if their partner’s “been around the block” too many times. How do girls feel about guy virgins? </p>
<p>In case anybody’s wondering, yes, I am a virgin and I am a guy, so I am especially curious.</p>
<p>Unless he’s drop dead gorgeous…I back away very, very quickly. Even when i was a virgin that turned me off. Sorry, but i’m biased like that.</p>
<p>–BUT–if you’re like under 18, then it’s not really a problem. I don’t really like the fact that so many kids over age 14 have sex now as if it’s not a big deal at all. But I digress…</p>
<p>^in my middle schools tons of kids had sex. this was 6th grade, ie 11 years old mind you. but i also digress.</p>
<p>i’d have to say i prefer a guy who’s not a virgin than one that is. it’s just the whole knowing what they’re doing thing. not to say guys who aren’t virgins know what they doing all the time, haha, that’s just a lie. but obvioulsy virgins won’t know. </p>
<p>advice. if you’re a virgin, don’t tell the girl. if she asks then i guess you can tell her. but it’s kind of a turn off and mood killer you say it at the wrong time. but guy virgins are usually a little too lost and too careful. it’s like their babies. i’m sure not all are like this, but many. </p>
<p>but i’d rather have a virgin guy than some self proclaimed “god’s gift to women” ■■■■■■.</p>
<p>^^^^
When u say that, are you talking about dating in general, or a hookup?</p>
<p>Curious too…</p>
<p>I can’t believe I’m actually responding to this thread, but here goes…</p>
<p>I’m going to sound like a prude, but I believe in abstinence before marriage and I’d have a hard time respecting a guy who wasn’t a virgin and would be less inclined to date him. For me, NOT being a virgin is definitely a turn-off. I guess it depends on what kind of girl you are looking for.</p>
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<p>So me being 18 years old and a virgin is a bad thing? I’m sorry my dear but you are a ho.</p>
<p>shellzie,
well i dont know what you mean by “what kind of girl you are looking for”, but hopefully you don’t mean anything like a slut versus a nice girl. but some people believe in no sex before marriage and some don’t. personal beliefs.</p>
<p>jpod,
um, how does that statement make her a ho. so having sex after 18 years old makes you a ho? it’s her own preference that she likes guys ovr 18 w/ experience. </p>
<p>mozillmaster,
when i say what exactly? </p>
<p>i would say for a random hookup, not that i do it all the time or anything, but if i had to chooses, i’d choose someone with some experience. </p>
<p>for dating, i guess it wouldn’t matter that much. i mean, it’s not like i’m not gonna date a guy that i like just b/c he’s a virgin. if we hit it off, then who cares. he can learn i’m sure. but if i had a choice, i would like him to not be a virgin.</p>
<p>I woudln’t care.</p>
<p>So in this whole discussion how do you know you are dating a virgin or non virgin? Do you inquire before accepting a date with a guy? How does that conversatin come forth?</p>
<p>current_student:Well, I guess that cleared up your post somewhat.</p>
<p>But why whould it matter if the guy is a virgin or not when you’re just dating? You wouldn’t marry someone if he was a virgin?</p>
<p>I think it’s cool to stay virgins until you’re married… that way you save that special moment for you & your life partner. But that’s just my opinion, I know America is going down hill in that department…</p>
<p>i told you…“for dating, i guess it wouldn’t matter that much. i mean, it’s not like i’m not gonna date a guy that i like just b/c he’s a virgin. if we hit it off, then who cares. he can learn i’m sure. but if i had a choice, i would like him to not be a virgin.”</p>
<p>the reason i prefer a guy who’s not a virign is b/c he’ll have some experience and be less awkward and such, on average. but if i genuinely like a guy, or loved him, it wouldn’t matter. techinically, it only takes one time to de virginize him.</p>
<p>hazmat,<br>
you wouldn’t know unless you asked. i wouldn’t really feel the need to ask unless he asked me. but sometimes you can tell when that moment comes or whatever. anyway, i already said i guy should say he’s a virgin without being asked. </p>
<p>the OP mentioned guys being turned on by virgins and turned off by girls that get around too much. but guys can only assume these things. a girl can say she’s a virgin and be lying just to turn the guy on. then again she may seem like the been around the block type, and be a virgin. so for girls, in my opinion, we assume some guys aren’t virgins by word of mouth or aother things and we assume some are virgins. but we don’t know for sure unless we asked the guy, in which case he could still lie. um, i’m not sure what i’m trying to say, but basically the whole wanting a guy to be experienced is not cirteria for me to give a guy a chance. it’s just i’d like it if he was.</p>
<p>Im an 18 year ol male… and im perfectly comfortable being a virgin…</p>
<p>havent found a girl i could respect… therefore havent wasted my time with any… i have a difficult time wasting energy with girls who are dumb… plain and simple… so thus i must wait until i go to college…</p>
<p>i think sex is a personal preference… we all have our own expectations of the ppl we’re w/… soo i guess its all personal preference…</p>
<p>to the OP:… dont worry about bein a virgin…haha you’re not the only one out there… its really not a big deal… if teh girl cant live w/ teh fact you are… then drop her and move on… thats life…</p>
<p>also is understandable that most girls would want a guy who “knows” what hes doin… but if youre in a long term relationship… then i think knowing what youre doing is less important… b/c of the emotional aspect… if its a hookup… then obviously the experience will help THE experience… lol so… thats just my two cents</p>
<p>If it’s just a random hookup… then it’s negative.</p>
<p>But if it’s a boyfriend, definite plus.</p>
<p>^why exactly is it a plus if it’s a boyfriend? i mean, you’ll still be doing stuff with him, right. to if you prefer he not be a virgin for explicitly hooking up, wouldn’t you also prefer it when he’s your boyfriend. the only difference being you don’t mind so much if he’s a virgin if he’s your boyfriend. did that make any sense? eh, i suck at typing my thoughts out.</p>
<p>All I have to say one of us better know what they’re doing</p>
<p>Even a blind squirrel occasionally finds an acorn.</p>
<p>Well, when I said “what kind of girl you are looking for” I meant what kind of values and priorities he wants a girl to have. Obviously different girls will have different opinions on the issue, as we have already demonstrated. I suppose if you wanted to, you could draw the line between a “slut” and a “nice girl” but thats not exactly what I meant when I said it.</p>
<p>i see…</p>
<p>hazmat, </p>
<p>he has a better chance of getting run over by a car. and usually the acorn comes from another squirrel that feels sorry for him. haha.</p>
<p>As a virgin girl, I would never go for a male who’d done it before. Anyone more experienced than I would be intimidating to me, and would just be far too different. It would be unsettling and would make me the less experienced, “younger” one.</p>