<p>^what if you didn’t know he wasn’t a virgin, and he didn’t know you were one. wouldn’t you want him to know what he was doing? what i mean is, if you take out the actual awkwardness of “knowing” if either of you is or isn’t a virgin, wouldn’t you then prefer he not be a virgin.</p>
<p>Haha KG go us! I’m sure we’ll both find someone special at BU right? ;)</p>
<p>I respect guys who are virgins depending on the circumstances. It is a HUGE turn-on when a guy who theorectially COULD have tons of sex is a virgin because he refuses to just sleep around. One-night-stands aren’t exactly a bad thing i guess, especially in college when everybody does it, but i love a guy who can have enough self-respect and maturity to wait for that special someone, and doesn’t need random hookups to feel good about himself.</p>
<p>I would say that you described me, but I don’t exactly have alot of opportunities where I could have sex. lol</p>
<p>-_-; I like how nobody cares if they themselves are virgins…</p>
<p>what’s to care about? it’ll be lost eventually.</p>
<p>I’m not a virgin, but I’ll say this. If you’re a girl and your substiantially more experienced than I am, don’t be shy and offer up some constructive criticism (even while we’re doing it) instead of blabbing to your friends about how bad I am. I hate it when girls lie about my performance and say it’s fine when they’re not getting the pleasure they deserve, totally turns me off. Guys get enough of a hard time from their guy friends about sex, but when it comes to girls, they have proof and nothing turns me soft like a bunch of girls snickering at me for an unknown reason.</p>
<p>^but it’s kind of awkward for a girl to tell you WHILE you’re doing it. i mean, you may not think so, but it’s kind of a turn off if you have to give a step by step guide. but i agree that girls should give guys pointers if they think they’re that bad. the problem is guys hardly ever ask for them…before, during, or after.</p>
<p>girls are much more likely to give pointers to boyfriends than random hookups. hookups just aren’t worth the time. plus, there are guys who are turned off by girls telling them what to do and telling them what they’re doing wrong.</p>
<p>i mean, if you sensed a girl was a little inexperienced and you were in the middle of it, would you really be like “yo, if you did this that would be better…yeah, and this…no no…let me show you.” realistically, no. if it was your girlfriend maybe. but it seems a little selfish for the more experienced person to boss around the less experienced person without them reaching out for advice first.</p>
<p>^ I hate it when girls complain about their guy’s performance to their friends. What the heck is that? That’s so awful of them.</p>
<p>Only guy I’ve been with was a virgin. But we’ve been together for a while and we’ve experienced a lot of things for the first time together.</p>
<p>Now though, if I was to sleep with anyone, definitely going for someone experienced. Virgins are cute, but I really don’t have the patience for fumbling shy guys.</p>
<p>Current, it’s easy to tell them to do things right while you’re doing it. You just have to be a bit sexy about it, like whisper it in their ear, or ‘show’ them what you’d like them to do or how you’d like them to do something.</p>
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<p>haha…so true. i think it would really be cute if i went out with a guy who i assumed was experienced and we hit it off and found out he was a virgin. i’d be like “aww…come here”. but under most other circumstances i’d be like “aww…ok bye bye”.</p>
<p>as for girls talking about guys performances behind their back…yes it’s mean, but please, guys do the same thing. i personally don’t kiss and tell. but i know of MANY guys who do. and girls. but lets be honest and admit it comes from both sexes.</p>
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<p>yeah that’s normal. but when you have to do it for every little thing it gets annoying and sends the wrong signals if you do it too many times.</p>
<p>Just take it slow. After while they’ll learn and surprise you, probably. =]</p>
<p>…hopefully…haha…</p>
<p>Just link them to websites that give them tips. They’re super helpful.</p>
<p>oh, something else you could do that could also be hot is to email or write them a letter of sorts, detailing <em>exactly</em> what you’d like them to do. It’s basically like talking dirty but in writing and you could be more specific (and thereby teaching them what you like without being critical).</p>
<p>^eh, i’m not the cyber sex type. i’d rather just tell him in person. but i’ve told all my guy friends (not meaning that i’ve sept with them…just guys i know in general) to read cosmo. haha. they love it.</p>
<p>Omg, not cyber sex! lol. It’s more like a note they find in their pocket when they get back home (and you sms them to look there, of course), or under their pillow, etc…</p>
<p>haha…yeah i know what you meant. but i’m just not the note leaving type person. he could do that to me though.</p>
<p>I also believe in abstinence before marriage, so I wouldn’t date a guy who wasn’t a virgin. I think it’s definitely a turn on when a guy respects himself and the girls he dates enough to wait until after marriage.</p>
<p>^so do you think people that have sex before marriage lack enough self respect?</p>
<p>i’m not accusing you of anything, i’m just asking. i understand if you say they respect their beliefs enough.</p>
<p>I just think that people who go and sleep around with tons of people are just throwing their bodies away to anyone who will take them. I think if people really respect themselves, they would be a lot more selective with who they let touch their bodies. Of course, not everyone is like that, so don’t misunderstand me. </p>
<p>I know people have different beliefs and opinions regarding this issue, and I’m not trying to put anyone down. That’s just my opinion. I believe our bodies are sacred and should be treated as such.</p>