Grandparent?? Not yet.....

[natty1988]

@jonri

I respectfully disagree with @oldfort I know that OP’s daughter has had mental health issues, but IMO this approach–discussing all these questions with them-- infanticizes the couple. This is their problem and the mind set OP should create is that she can’t be counted on for any help at all; the couple has to figure it out for themselves.

Yes, but you HAVE to bring up all the possible issues.