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I actually got a card from D2 today. It was a combined Mother’s Day and thank you card. Her birthday is in early May.
But I appreciate that I actually got a card on time. It took thought a head of time. Progress!
Will get a “Happy Mother’s Day” from S and a hug if I am really lucky!
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DH and DD are taking me to visit a nearby farm that nurtures rescued donkeys, horses, mini-horses, goats, alpacas, herding dogs and other assorted critters in dire straits. Though the farm sometimes adopts out animals when a good home is found, it’s not a shelter, but a permanent home for most. Photos of the place are beautiful. Many of the horses are blind or impaired in some way and have loyal mini-donkey companions that lead the way. It warms my mother-heart and I think I’ll be sorely tempted to volunteer and call this place a second home. When the human world gets to be a bit much, there’s nothing like animals and plants to restore your center.
Years ago in my late teens, my mother said she didn’t need presents or a gift. That knowing I loved her is all I needed. S I bought a card, give her a flower from the garden and spend the day with her. The card said Could you please pay me back for the card? We’ve been doing this for going 40 years and I look forward to it.
If the extended families are both in the same area, Mothers Day can have the same difficulties as the holidays. My friend has to contribute to a late lunch for her mil, and then later on go to a dinner at her own mother’s. She told me that she wishes she could just spend the day with her own two daughters.
It makes me sad that my mother isn’t around to see her grandchildren grow into wonderful young adults.
To me, there’s no reason not to choose another day to celebrate it with your kids or one or the other mom if THE MD is too hectic. As it is, I will have my kids 2500 and 5000 miles away from me today.
Last year, we were all together in SF for MD, for the first time since 2005! We had a nice weekend there together, which I enjoyed immensely.
I’m also thrilled we were able to spend over a week with D in March and will be spending seversl days with S this week! :x
Pretty sure DH reminded him, but son called me this morning to wish me happy MD and tell me he loves me (while he was lying in bed studying for exams). I’ll take it. 
First MD with my freshman DD 3000 miles away. She FaceTime me this morning and was a little upset that I didn’t receive a gift she mailed yet. Got a nice airline gift card from my son so I can fly to see DD or any other destination. Will be having lunch with my mom. So grateful to have her around.
Happy Mother’s Day, all!
My first Mother’s Day I was less than a month in at this motherhood thing. Exhausted, I anticipated dh’s card or flowers or gift. As the day wore on and nothing appeared, I began to fume. I didn’t expect fireworks and champagne, but, yes, some acknowledgment of having just given birth plus an extra week in the hospital due to complications would have been nice. I was/am non-confrontational but was so angry that he hadn’t seen fit to in any way acknowledge Mother’s Day that I calmly and firmly that night told him that my feelings were hurt and that I know that holidays are not a big deal in his family but that for his sake he should step it up next year.
The next year and every year since – including this morning – he and/or the boys have made me breakfast in bed and given me all kinds of little presents. Ds2’s specialty is homemade cards, usually topical in terms of pop culture or politics or what’s going on in our lives. This year’s theme, which he sent to dh to print out and deliver, revolves around his graduation this week. They are always hilarious. Ds1 is out of town, too, but hand-delivered my favorite flowers before he left Thursday and called this morning. Ds2 called and sang and played guitar on FaceTime. That was a shock. That’s it. Oh, and they got me some workout gear. But no expensive presents or fancy dinners out. Mother’s Day I don’t have to cook and get to do whatever I want. Today, that’s re-binge on Master of None and watch the Spurs at 2:30.
I have great kids and warm relationships with both of them, but, yeah, I do want a little something special on this day. And this whole BS about you’re not my mother … no, but when the kids are little it’s up to you to model how to treat their mother, so, yeah, some of setting the tone of the day falls on you. Deal with it. 
I don’t need much, but some acknowledgement is nice. I need to know I’m loved and appreciated just as much as anyone else but I’m not picky about the how.
My son is home today. He has a cold, and is buried in homework. He’s been pleasant and just said thank you when I baked him cookies.
Both D’s are in foreign countries at the moment, but they’ve both texted happy mother’s day and sent pictures. They know I LOVE pictures! D2 was home last week and said happy mother’s day about 20 times! With hugs. Her bf also sent me a happy mother’s day text. It’s good. I’m happy.
Also hoping DH brings some lunch home. I really hate going out to eat on days when everyone goes out to eat, but some takeout would be nice.
I’m calling my mom and have asked for a raincheck on taking her out to lunch.
Son just jumped up with an “OH!”, put on his shoes and ran outside. It may just be that the annual mother’s day bouquet picked from the yard is about to become a reality this year too!
S1 and his gf are in my kitchen making Fried chicken for me for dinner right now as I speak.
Noon where son is, 3 pm here. I have exchanged Happy Mother’s Day greetings from everyone else imaginable. Avoided trying to call son just incase he calls today. He can’t avoid it- Microsoft lets my computer and phone know even if he ignores print media. Can’t stay available and waiting. Life will go on.
He has said he loves me in past conversations. We had rocky teen years and a now and again (months apart) stating of care works. H never instilled such social graces- one parent can’t do it alone.
My most memorable spontaneous call was when he was a college freshman. I knew he had started final exams and was very surprised when he got me on my cell phone when I was out. I actually was shocked because he was still theoretically taking a final- he had finished it early and called (got the A in the class, btw).
Decades ago H and I learned to avoid lunch/brunch out on this day because restaurants were filled. Now as empty nesters we also will avoid them- especially the moderate ones we have always preferred.
DH and D bought me a card and flowers, and DH grilled chicken for lunch. Now I have to get some work done, but I’m happy.
S called a few hours ago. We had a nice long chat. Then H and I took our two pups on a lovely walk along the rail trail. The sun even came out! H will make dinner tonight.
Perfect day.
I have two married adult daughters. The one in NYC, I saw two weeks ago, and she took me to a Broadway show as an early M Day gift. Very special. Today, she and her husband called me together on a speaker phone and so that meant a lot. My other daughter currently lives five blocks away from me. Tonight, she and her spouse are taking me to dinner some place that is a surprise. I do appreciate when the kids acknowledge Mother’s Day. They always have. Unfortunately, my own mother is no longer living.
S called today from school in London and D called from NYC. Both sent really nice gifts.
My sister and her family were visiting my mom and took her to brunch. My brother, nephew and a long time family friend were also there. My dad passed away a few weeks ago so it was nice that my mom was not alone today.
I’ve heard from both sons today and got a gift yesterday from S1 and DIL. Fortunately, S1 took my hint earlier this week that he should do something for his pregnant wife. DH will make a nice dinner later. Don’t really need more
My sister and I bought my mom a silver bracelet with the names and artificial birthstones of all six grandchildren, including the one who was lost. My mom is to the stage of life where she lets you know quite clearly how she feels about a gift, and she loves this one.