Harvard Parent Thread

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<p>EnoughAlready - My son was in the Glee Club for his first two years (2008-2010), so I am sure that he knows your son well. He left when Jim Marvin left and it sounds like your son did as well. He did not join the Kroks until spring of junior year, so this is his first year with them and he is loving it. We get to enjoy his round-the-world tour through his blog, which is fun. They are in Asia now and are being treated like demi-gods. He also knows both of gadad’s daughters.</p>

<p>Personally, I did not enjoy the graduation week as much as I thought I would. We found out shortly before we arrived that the Kroks would be leaving Thursday night at midnight. Later it was moved up to 9:30. As a result, the “packing-up” which would have occurred on Friday had to happen before Thursday (and we were arriving late Monday for the festivities). As of Tuesday morning, one trunk had been packed and one box full of miscellaneous stuff. He had bought the largest boxes he could find (and I am sure the parents would recognize the problem here). We were putting everything in storage, so I had arranged a minivan to move the “small” stuff. We made one trip to the storage facility with the aforesaid locker and one or two boxes (now of a more reasonable size), but that was all that could be accomplished before the Family Dinner on Tuesday night. On Wednesday, most of the rest of the room was moved with the help of one of his roommate’s dad, but the two of us missed the Family Picnic.</p>

<p>Quite frankly (no pun intended) I was not interested in Barney Frank’s thoughts and had never heard of the commedian, so I missed the Class Day speeches in order to take a shower prior to the Master’s Reception. The reception was nice, but we had to hurry out in order to make our dinner reservations with family and friends. The dinner at Upstairs at the Square was great, relaxing and not at all hurried (for the first time since we had arrived).</p>

<p>I was prepared (having read the comments of prior attendees here on CC) to arrive early at the gate for graduation and we were there by 6:15 a.m. We got good seats and enjoyed the Morning Exercises, especially the student speeches. The House ceremony was okay, but the House Master did not really say anything about the students other that a short sentence or two that the students had written themselves. That was disappointing based on what I have heard about other House Masters. The Afternoon Exercises were actually more of an alumni meeting and had little to do with the graduates (other than they are now alumni and can start giving to the college). We left after the Pitches and Kroks sang. I was not that interested in the speaker. We had dinner at the Rialto with family and friends again and it was just as relaxing as Wednesday’s dinner except that our son had to leave so early.</p>

<p>All in all, I would skip the Family Dinner and not have great expectations of the Family Picnic. Both occasions were essentially cafeteria food (other than the beer and wine at the dinner). The Class Day speeches and the Afternoon Exercises are dependant on the speakers and would judge them accordingly. (Last year’s was much better in my opinion.) Do not miss the Master’s Reception, the House Graduation or the Morning Exercises (but get there early and be prepared to sit for a long time). When we were finishing up the moving on Friday, I asked one of my son’s blockmate’s dad when he had gotten all the sun (he was quite red) and he said he was on Widener Library’s steps for graduation because he arrived at 7:15 a.m.</p>

<p>Most CC parents know that you need to make hotel reservations now for next year, but you should also know that you need to make restaurant reservations early too. Some of the fancier restaurants are taking reservations now for next year’s graduation. I would only be concerned about graduation night or possibly the night before. Our son thought we could just make reservations on the Monday we arrived, but we made them a month or longer in advance and had to take the time slots available. Needless to say this can also be a problem if you don’t know how many people will be in your dinner party.</p>

<p>Lastly, plead with your kids to get some packing done before you arrive. Of the six blockmates in my son’s suite, AFAIK none of them had packed at all prior to Tuesday. Of the six, only one was out of the suite before Friday morning. The rest were still packing on Friday and the Mom’s (usually) were doing most of the packing. And one of the results of all the last-minute cleaning was that an amazing amount of stuff was simply thrown out or taken to a “recycle” area near the house.</p>

<p>Yes, Hat, if your son was in Glee Club those years, he certainly knew my son. </p>

<p>You wrote, “Quite frankly (no pun intended) I was not interested in Barney Frank’s thoughts.” Oh dear. I guess our politics are quite different. I’m always interested in what Barney has to say. I didn’t even know that he was speaking.</p>

<p>Packing up is a nightmare, and we only live 3 miles from campus! Worse than the packing was watching these 7 suitemates, who had been tied at the wrists and ankles for 4 years, say goodbye. The end of year thing for my daughter ties my stomach in knots because she is a plane trip away.</p>

<p>I agree Hat about the ceremonies. The Ceremony at the house was totally a disappointment. Housemaster said NOTHING about the kids but their names, I would have been happy if he had read a sentence or two that they had written. I cry at everything and did not shed a tear the entire week. I do find Barney Frank entertaining politics aside so I did enjoy his speech except for his politicizing at the end. Students Class Day speeches were great, really enjoyed them! However, Andy Samberg was Vulgar, his humor is way off color and he talked about putting your junk in a box, and having sex with the mothers in the crowd. Might be funny for a comedy club bu a bit much for a Harvard Class Day speech in my opinion.</p>

<p>Ok after reading my previous post, its a bit harsh. It was still a wonderful day didn’t mean to be so negative. With 140 kids to get through the master needed to be quick, we were all sitting in the sun and it was hot!</p>

<p>Hi,
My son will move to Cambridge in the Fall to start as a freshman. I am looking into advise on how to move him and for how long should we be with him. We are from Pittsburgh, PA. Thanks</p>

<p>The first consideration is- will he particapate in FOP, FAP, or FUP, the freshman orientation activities which are held the week before move-in?</p>

<p>If not, the move-in is simpler- you can arrive in the morning by car, move him in, and by 5pm he will want to be off with his new roommates, and then be at the obligatory dorm/proctor meetings (students only --parents not invited) around 7pm. </p>

<p>You are fortunate to be within driving distance, so you may just need a hotel room for the one evening. If you plan to buy him some supplies in Cambridge, that is easily done the morning after move-in, when you know which roommates are supplying which items, or if there is a need to furnish a common room. </p>

<p>There is a large tent sale run by the Habitat for Humanity student group which sells used furniture, lamps, wastebaskets, etc., which were left behind by last year’s seniors. The Coop (student bookstore) and the nearby hardware store sell tons of dorm supplies, too. The Staples store is a block from the Yard and offers all the office supplies, printers, desk lamps, even fans I seem to remember. (And September can be very hot and humid in the freshmen dorms.)</p>

<p>You can also mail boxes to the Freshman Yard mail center(in the Science Center) by post or UPS, and they will be held for pickup. Dollies are available with an ID to wheel heavy boxes to the dorms. The Freshmen Dean’s Office will send you your son’s mailing/shipping address in late July so you can ship boxes a few weeks before arrival.</p>

<p>Be forewarned that once your car is in Harvard Yard, you will only have about 20 minutes to unload it. Once your car is moved to the longer tierm parking ,you can return to unpack all day. If your student is in Greenhough, Hurlbut, or Pennypacker, the Union dorms, there is on street parking and you have more unloading time.</p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

<p>P.S. The FDO website has all the logistical details of Freshman move-in, and Freshman life in general, such as the dates of Freshman Parents’ Weekend.</p>

<p>Thanks Fauve,
He is on the waiting list for the cleaning week. Do you know when they will be asigned roommate and how soon can they move to their room? We were thinking driving on Thursday, arriving Friday, getting to know his roomates and Boston buying things on Saturday and leaving on Sunday morning.</p>

<p>Quick Question: I applied for FUP and they have a rolling application until June 15; I sent in my application around the end of May but I haven’t heard anything. When can I expect notification of whether or not I can participate in FUP?</p>

<p>My son will also be a Freshman in the fall. I thought I read that Freshman move-in day is Monday, August 27th. If anyone knows otherwise, please let me know.</p>

<p>Yes, that is move in day. I’m participating in a pre-orientation program, and we move in on August 26</p>

<p>Thanks for the confirmation, CPU!</p>

<p>Quillabee, if I remember correctly from last year, my son was notified mid June that he had been waitlisted for FUP, then he got off the waitlist in mid July. I would email FUP to inquire, just in case your application got lost in the shuffle. (Never hurts to reiterate your interest/enthusiasm!)</p>

<p>Thanks Crimson15mom! I just got my FUP acceptance today! I am super excited! Can you tell me more about your son’s experience and any tips you may have to make the most out of pre-orientation and move-in week? </p>

<p>Thank you!</p>

<p>Congrats, Quillabee! My son loved FUP and in fact will be a FUP leader this year. I don’t have a lot of details about his experience to share but I know he really valued getting to know other incoming H students and also getting a preview of the Harvard campus/neighborhood and of Boston, in all its diversity. I’m not sure there’s any way to truly prepare for the experience, but be assured that you won’t have too much free time to worry about – everything is well scheduled and programmed, so all you have to do is be open and engaged. The only hard part, as I recall, was figuring out the luggage situation, since you can’t bring everything for the year to pre-o. If your parents are coming to help with move-in, they can bring the bulk of your stuff, and if they aren’t you’ll have to ship stuff.</p>

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<p>My son will be a freshman this fall. I am wondering when he will choose his classes and when will his tuition payment be due? It seems that we have not received much info yet…</p>

<p>Ah, YOU won’t your S will. My S seeing the bill thought it was a “courtesy copy” to him and deleted it. When I called in late July the accounts receivable they told me that the bill went to him so he would have to send it-- but as he had both trashed it and he was on a holiday out of the country at the time that wasn’t possible. I replied to the person on the phone that if Harvard expect him to pay from the gifts he got from graduation he will be able to afford through the middle of September–at best. That I was the guy paying the bills and if I didn’t get a bill, they would get no money.</p>

<p>Finally the light went on in her head–she put a supervisor on who asked me for my email and said that “even though this is irregular” she would send me a copy of his bill.</p>

<p>I wonder how many other families have found themselves in the same situation. When my S got back from his trip, it was as I had said-- he figured–understandably–that he was just getting a copy of the bill but that I would get the real bill and so he had no need to keep it in his mailbox.</p>

<p>I realize that Harvard is following the law but as Charles Dickens famously wrote “The law is an ass…”</p>

<p>All you have to do is have your student set you up as an “authorized payer” on his/her term bill account and you will automatically get email alerts when bills are sent.</p>

<p>Last year’s first bill was emailed on 7/7, so I imagine this year will be similar, momofmykids. Your son won’t actually choose his classes til he gets to campus, after “shopping” week. Don’t worry, you’ll start getting lots of information soon!</p>

<p>[Harvard</a> College Freshman Dean’s Office Mailings](<a href=“http://www.fdo.fas.harvard.edu/icb/icb.do?keyword=k3806&pageid=icb.page467942]Harvard”>http://www.fdo.fas.harvard.edu/icb/icb.do?keyword=k3806&pageid=icb.page467942)</p>

<p>Also, momofmykids, I recommend bookmarking the Freshman Dean’s Office website, which has almost all the info you need about logistics and schedules, as well as a to-do list for incoming students. As mailings come out, copies of those mailings are also linked at this site.</p>

<p>espinlh- Your student will receive his room and roommate assignment at the end of July or beginning of August.</p>

<p>Ditto the need to setup an “Authorized Payers” account on his term bill. You will need all the current charges and payments record. It offers online payments as well. </p>

<p>Be aware that many outside scholarship payments are slow to arrive and slow to show up on the current account record, so you may have to pay charges yourself until the outside $ arrives.</p>

<p>Harvard is very good about promptly reimbursing you when they do finally receive outside scholarship money, IF you request it by phone or email.</p>

<p>but only the student can make you an authorized payor so make sure s/he does that before s/he bins the email or goes on holiday-- bc harvard doesn’t like releasing the bill w/o it!</p>