@snackpack02 That’s difficult. I know I would want to hear the positives so I don’t feel so poorly about myself, but constructively for other applications, I might want to hear the negatives on my essay so I could try to improve anything.
@tuty143 I get what you mean; sometimes people our age suck, haha.
@tuty143 it’s okay you can wait with us 
@flautamagica I found this on the Harvard website:
“Do I need to communicate directly with the admissions staff member who read my file about my deferral?
Despite what you may hear or read elsewhere, no; this is wholly unnecessary. Our decisions are made by a committee of admission officers, including faculty members, no single one of whom is responsible for shaping the outcome of deliberations.”
If my guidance counsellor is contacting them, I’m fine with it!!
@tuty143 are you a junior applicant?
@Sajidur4 no, I’m a senior. But all through highschool and junior high I was up a grade level in advanced science and math classes with all kids from the grade above me. So all my friends are in college now.
Oh okay thanks @Sajidur4! @tuty143 I know what that’s like, I had a good group of friends and they turned out to be complete jerks and just bullied me a lot (basically kicked me out of the group!) so I’m just trying to become better friends with nice acquaintances! You can message me the whole day and we can freak out together lol
the support on this thread is incredible, maybe I’ll try to be around some of my school friends (people you only talk to in school but they don’t want to hangout outside of school) but a lot of them are fake and strangely competitive. :x
@tuty143 That’s what high schoolers do: be competitive. I’m constantly singled out because I want to go to an Ivy League, to the point where I’m made fun of because I care about my academics. It sucks, but I’ve gotten used to it.
@tuty143 @flautamagica oh:/ That sucks you had to go through that. No one should experience that. It’s okay. You’re an amazing applicant and you’re going to have an awesome time at Harvard or any other top tier college. Those colleges weed out the jerks from high school!
Guys fast forward to minute 2:24… That will be my reaction if I am accepted :))
Yeah, no matter where I end up honestly I’m so excited to just get away from all the kids that don’t care about school and make fun of the kids who try.
@snackpack02 Well to be honest, I wouldn’t want to know either right now. The first would bolster my confidence, which will make the deferral even rougher, and the latter would just intensify my already ridiculous levels of anxiety. BUT I’ll play along, and if I had to choose I’d go with #2, so I could at least improve my app for the RD round!
@snackpack02 hahha I don’t think I would believe it either!
I honestly just can’t wait to go to a liberal school…
@snackpack02 you killed me with that! I wan’t to meet all those people and be their friends. Like that’s one of the reasons I loved Harvard. The people seemed just so amazing.
@tuty143 excatly… I don’t see where the stereotype “Harvard students are pretentious” comes from. All of them seem like cool people.
@tuty143 I feel you!! I was having issues with my friend group last year, so I decided to cut them off because they were a huge source of negativity in my life. But as they say, I hopped out of one canoe without having another one lined up. So, the second half of last school year my social life was teetering on the edge between swimming and drowning. I’ve done my best this year to be social, but I definitely don’t have a “clique” by any means. Just 2 solid friends and basically 0 acquaintances. Oh, also my guidance counselors are like my bffs now lol. But as you said, it gets better in college. Tbh, I wish my mom was cool enough to have her wait with me while I receive my decision ;D I really wish you the best of luck.
I’m not sure if I’m the only one here that’s like this, but…I’m really good friends with my teachers. I’ll go to their rooms and spend time just talking to them; I enjoy the presence of someone who gets where I’m coming from. Being such an overachiever, sometimes my peers just judge my actions. I’m an enthusiastic person, so every time I say something, there’s always a snarky comment by someone in the room. My teachers…get me.
It is so nice that in Iran, we have these NODET schools, were everybody cares about academics, but nobody competes with anybody. you’d be made fun of if you don’t care about academics. (in my entire graduating class, only three are not pursuing professional degrees).
Interestingly, our school encourages athletically oriented kids to drop out. you are expelled if your GPA is less than the equivalent of a 3.0(only one person has been expelled during my time here)
What is even better is that I am the only applicant from Eastern Iran, and possibly one of the two from the whole nation.