<p>Okay - this might sound way out of the box but it worked for me.</p>
<p>I had a not so good experience with surgery a few years ago that left me with major panic attacks about dying. What got me over it was reading several books by people who had near-death experiences. There is even a website forum. Realizing that most people seem to experience something that is very positive (whether it’s real or not) helped me tremendously. </p>
<p>How you get her to read these types of books is a whole another issue. Perhaps if she is still seeing an acupuncturist or massage therapist, you could ask them to recommend a book to her. I haven’t looked but there might be something on DVD. </p>
<p>Hospice is the way to go. They are really trained well to deal with this sort of situation. Hugs to you. Never an easy situation. I’ve seen several of my friend’s parents make everyone around them miserable with this sort of behavior. It has made me determined to never do this to my son!</p>