<p>^^^^^^Ha ha, good one. :D</p>
<p>My d thanked me very specifically and sincerely in her thesis, it was actually quite touching.</p>
<p>Here’s a question… have any of the adults here ever said, “Thanks Mom and Dad, you were so right” to our own parents?</p>
<p>I missed the chance to say it to my Dad, but I’ve told my mom often. I usually include some variation on it in her birthday card every year.</p>
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<p>^^^^Yep! :)</p>
<p>I hop my parents are lookng down on me knowing I appreciate their guidance.</p>
<p>I say it enough. Sometimes my parents just don’t know what they’re talking about!</p>
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Aw, thanks :o And I did end up telling my mom that I think she’s psychic, because she’s right all the time. Her response: “You guys make it too easy” with complete nonchalance. xD</p>
<p>Both of my kids listen to me, consider what I said, and more frequently than not choose to act consistently with my advice in matters relating to academics and careers. Both thank me for help and advice. It is gratifying. </p>
<p>Like BCEagle, I have a good track record in these areas, which helps. [I attended 3 of HYPSM, did well, and was a professor at one, before setting out on Wall Street and now starting and running a company. Now, people come to me for career advice and I occasionally give speeches on career choices and am planning a book]. </p>
<p>They listen somewhat on other aspects of living – I strongly suggested to ShawSon that he not drive to a rock music festival with kids who would likely be carrying drug paraphernalia. He delayed his trip and the other car kids stopped by police. But, not clear that they always follow my life advice.</p>
<p>On matters of the heart (BFs and GFs), ShawD talks to my wife. Not clear if ShawSon does. Neither really talks about that with me and generally I would try not to give advice unless the situation were really toxic.</p>
<p>When my DD graduated from college, she invited me to drive & bike across the country with her as part of her move to attend grad school. She got a lot of questions from friends & sibs. Are you sure you want to spend 3 weeks with your mom? Every time the subject comes up (even 2 years later) she states emphatically that it was the best trip ever and that we never ran out of things to talk about.
She is incredulous that South Dakota and Minnesota could be so beautiful and that a trip with a parent could be a blast. We both highly recommend it to others. I feel a lot of affirmation hearing her describe our trip. She created the driving itinerary across the country and I developed the biking plans. Since that time, we have done two half marathons together.
We have come a long ways since middle school!</p>
<p>“you were right.” ~text from my son. I have it saved (lock feature) on my cell phone.</p>
<p>Not exactly saying “you were right”, but close…
my young adult S has decided to go back for Master’s and PhD after a couple years of working since his undergrad degree.
Visiting a couple potential schools, he came back and said how much they seem like children, with him now at 26 and them at 18, 19, 20…
I said “Yes, they do, but they probably wanted to be treated just like adults”.
He got the point, and I was glad he now had a larger perspective; he finally realized a college kid [probably] still living largely on Mom and Dad’s dime is, well, still a kid.</p>
<p>Yes…when my son was a junior in college he roomed with 2 others who were from very wealthy families and never did any “chores” around their apartment. He told me “thanks for making me load and unload the dishwasher, sweep the floor and take out the trash. I thought you were being mean and wanted me to always do your work, but now I know you wanted me to learn what it takes to keep a house clean.” I thought I was going to fall over !!!</p>
<p>My daughter also told me I was right when she got a bid from a sorority she wasn’t thrilled about. I suggested she give it a try for a few weeks to see if she didn’t feel differently. She did and now as a junior she is president!! Her admission of me being right in an essay helped her win a Panhellenic scholarship! </p>
<p>I think they all say thanks or you were right eventually, just depends on their life circumstances! Such a great feeling to know our efforts are not in vain!!</p>
<p>Ok, we are from the UK, so this might sound weird to some of you, but here we go…</p>
<p>My first son applied to St. Andrews (Scotland) to study Theology and Philosophy. He changed his mind between applying and going there (not a problem in itself because of the way that the university runs). As he had been admitted into the Faculty of Arts - that ran T&P, and had straight As in his ‘A’ Levels, he could do any course that the Faculty offered. </p>
<p>He decided he wanted to do Economics. His reasoning was that he believed that would get him a banking placement better than any other course. Why banking? He thought he’d make lots of money. To me, that was him about to make a bad decision - my husband and I do not believe that degrees should be chosen solely for their money making opportunities, but mainly for your love and enjoyment of the subject.</p>
<p>Anyway, SA is the leading university in the UK for International Relations, which is heavily oversubscribed. He could do it though if he wanted, however, if so, he had to take the IR course that was offered in Semester 1. If you didn’t take this course in that S1, the door to getting an IR degree from SA was shut to you forever - literally. I thought if he wasn’t going for the love of a subject, he might as well broaden his horizons and get a really coveted degree in the process - Economics and International Relations was one of the joint degrees offered in the faculty. ‘No mum, I don’t want to. I hate politics. I hate history’, and on and on he went. </p>
<p>In the end, I said, ok, hon, please humour me. Take this S1 course together with the Economics ones, and if you really don’t like it, don’t take the S2 option (also a prerequisite for moving into the honours class for it). He is a lovely boy and he did take it.</p>
<p>A few months ago (he has just finished his 2nd year in SA), he rang me and said, ‘mum, I am dropping Economics. I have told my Adviser that I want to move into the honours class (they do this for years 3 and 4) for just IR - I love it and enjoy it more than Economics and want to focus on just it. Thanks mum for making me do that S1 course’!</p>
<p>My dad started college with a poor work ethic. He flunked out, his parents pulled the plug, he started working a job, and he improved his work ethic. Then he studied at a community college on his own funding and aced his classes.</p>
<p>I had a poor work ethic and was academically dishonest throughout primary and secondary school. My parents said I’d end up like my dad if I wouldn’t start taking dilligence and integrity seriously. I figured college would be an academic fresh start that would jolt me into motivation.</p>
<p>A year after high school graduation, I fully admitted that they were right and I was wrong.</p>