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<p>That is SO SO sweet, and I really hope you say that to her soon-Mother’s Day is coming up soon.</p>
<p>Aww… what a sweet kid you are 
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<p>My mom says getting a sun dial tattoo on my lower back looks trashy, but what does she know. :rolleyes: She doesn’t have a tattoo.</p>
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<p>LOL. I know. The thing is, I liked the poor kid, and I guess it came out in the “advice” I gave her which ended up being the letter he was looking for. Oh my…:o</p>
<p>re sundial tattoos…there was this girl in front of me in spinning class that had a sun tattoo in that lower back area. it was low and looking at it, it looked, well, like, um, a certain area of the lower body thats circular. another round object in that area is not a positive</p>
<p>just saying</p>
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<p>plagiarism is the ultimate praise.</p>
<p>two from my son (now 23) freshman year I made him take back snow boots (hiking boots ) to Purdue and hat/gloves. He told me how ridiculous that was, he wouldn’t need it. A few days later a major snowstorm hit and Walmart was empty of snow gear when he went shopping with a friend. Thanks mom
He started his co-op and his bosses told him he had old time work values that they haven’t seen in a long time. They told him to thank his parents. He did.
Although my girls are good and I know they told me thank you, these are the ones that stand out</p>
<p>When my son was home for spring break he went for a haircut. In chatting with the stylist, he learned that her daughter is a freshman at one of our state U’s (not the one he is at) and that she is not doing well academically–sub 2.0 first term, and mom thinks daughter is probably staying out too late, having too much fun, and not studying hard enough.</p>
<p>My kid says that he told her, “My parents told me that you have to treat college like a job–you have to get up every day on time, go to every class, and do the work. And it’s true; that’s just what you have to do.”</p>
<p>Ohmahgawd…<em>bites knuckle</em>…he listened. HE LISTENED. It may not have had any effect for the first dozen years he heard it, but it stuck.</p>
<p>It wasn’t a “thank you” per se but I’m counting it as such!</p>
<p>^^^^CHS, that’s great!</p>
<p>Yes, our older daughter is fairly quick to recognize the wisdom or caution her parents have imparted and expresses thanks. The younger daughter has said thank you for good advice but I’ll be honest and say I think it was really painful for her to say. ;)</p>
<p>When my girls were younger they would sometimes tell me advice someone else gave them (that I did also) like it was the first time, but I knew it was their way of saying “you were right” Later, they would on occasion, in person or emails, once about applying to college and recently when abroad, someone they traveled with had their passport stolen but they had theirs hidden in the item “they didn’t need” ; )</p>
<p>D has often pointed out what she feels to be parenting flaws in her friends’ parents and mentioned that she thinks what we did was much better. </p>
<p>But what happens more often is that I will mention something and I won’t think D has even heard me, or she shrugs it off. A few days/weeks/months later I will hear virtually the identical statement I had previously made come out of her mouth. The first few times this happened I tried to claim credit, “Oh, I’m so glad you agree with what I said.” Of course she insisted I didn’t say it and she came up with it on her own. So now I just smile and nod, let her think she came up with it herself, and discretely pat myself on the back when she’s not looking. 
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<p>I knew S valued our opinion when he was looking for his first apartment. Although it was in another city, he would email us with the new listings he found and call us to discuss them after he looked at them. Although sometimes he was annoyed when I asked what he thought was an obvious question (“Mom, I’m not THAT dumb”) there were times when he said, “Hmmm… I didn’t think to find out about that. I’ll have to ask.” I didn’t think much about his keeping us informed about his apartment hunt until a friend’s son rented an apartment without asking his parents’ advice, and it didn’t turn out to be a good choice for him, for reasons he hadn’t considered purely due to lack of experience. That’s when I realized S’s checking in with us for advice showed what a good relationship we have and that he legitimately values our opinion (even if he doesn’t always go along with it).</p>
<p>Just the other day, but I don’t really want to say what about. :)</p>
<p>I was very impressed and told him so.</p>
<p>Yes, they do from time to time. However, an even better thing for me is that my mom tells me that when they speak to her they always tell her what a great mom I am. She says they all have told her they are lucky to have good parents who are raising them to be good people. It makes me proud,</p>
<p>As a kid, I say it to my parents all the time – they’ve done an exceptional job parenting. They push me to do well, but they never push me too much. They encourage me, support me, and have given me countless bits of priceless pieces of advice.</p>
<p>sseamom… good to know. we’re going through the 16-18 year old phase right now. and your comment just stopped me from laying in traffic!!!</p>
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<p>this is my second child, who I am currently waiting for so I can go to bed. We are both ready for her to leave for college in … but who’s counting?</p>
<p>My oldest tells me I am right all of the time. She’s 22. I think she’s hoping I will get her a new car for graduation. :p</p>
<p>I heard the younger one giving advice on the phone yesterday. My exact words. Which were completely wrong when I gave them to her two weeks ago. I adore this kid, don’t get me wrong. She’s frequently quite right. ;)</p>
<p>Our youngest said something so gratifying to me yesterday, and it immediately made me think of this thread. She said (something like - wish I’d written it down), “I know I probably complained a lot in high school that we didn’t do vacations and I didn’t have some of the things my friends had, but THANK YOU for setting it up so that I could graduate without any loans. My friends are really stressed and I’m not. Sorry for when I was an obnoxious teenager.” That was a sweet conversation. :)</p>
<p>She’s getting her master’s next weekend, much of which she covered via savings, a job, and a grad assistantship. We found, to our amazement, we had some money left over to help out. She has a job in her field that starts in August. It feels so good when they round that last bend into adulthood. Cheers to all of us parents who wondered if it would ever happen.</p>
<p>Ds thanked us at his sports banquet last night! He was the last kid to speak and the only one who mentioned his parents. I thought of this thread. :)</p>
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<p>You gotta love that. :)</p>
<p>Mine may have, but I fainted and bumped my head and got a concussion and don’t remember it.</p>