<p>My take (from following chaosakita’s saga) is that her Ps have promulgated a rather idiosyncratic and complicated formula for what they would be willing to pay for this school or that, based on *their *valuation (which more or less comes down to rank). And—correct me if I’m wrong, chaosakita—it doesn’t seem as if chaosakita’s preferences hold much weight. Maybe I’m a pushover. But the preference of the person actually going to school felt like a rather significant factor to me when I was working on a list with my D. </p>
<p>None of us knows what the financial situation is. So, sure, it could be money that’s making chaosakita’s parents push Vandy. It sounds to me as if it’s the combination of location, prestige and money. Which, okay, fine. It’s their money. And I’m sure chaosakita will “bloom where she’s planted” or whatever … But I wish the Ps would weight her preferences a bit more. Sorry. Maybe I’m gonna get flamed for dissing my parental brethren. It sounds like a power struggle to me, one where the people with the money have ALL the power and are not engaging in a dialogue with the person for whom this decision means the most.</p>
<p>Anyway, chaosakita, I really do urge you to figure out whether this is a done deal for your Ps so you can get used to the idea of Vandy (which, of course, is a great option) and get over CMC. That’s if you really do not have a vote here or if the decision has been made.</p>