<p>Ouch, sopranomom!</p>
<p>Wait, sopranomom, I thought that parents are paying for college, I am not sure what it has to do with picking husband for daughter, paying for wedding is just not enough leverage.</p>
<p>If the OP is honestly “heartbroken” over her brilliant, straight-A D not following the life plan that mom picked out for her, she could use some harsh words. She might also want to volunteer at the local children’s hospital so she can see what a mother’s heartbreak really really looks like. The children’s psychiatric ward would do the trick, also. There but for the grace of God go you. And the rest of us.</p>
<p>sopranomom,
I hope you are not having heart attack. Are you OK? Calm down, we are worrying about you.</p>
<p>"THE MOM decided to reject Georgetown and Brown. THE DAUGHTER was “heartbroken.” </p>
<p>Could you be wrong? Damn straight you could be wrong. If you were fully capable of paying for those schools when your D was agreeing to go in as the major you wanted a month ago, you are fully capable of paying for them now."</p>
<p>I agree. Seems like the mom wanted to call all of the shots including the D’s major.</p>
<p>wonder why the OP hasn’t returned?
I also wonder why she posted 4 times on Georgetown board- yet doesnt seem to support her daughter attending a strong school in our nations capitol with many more opportunities in international studies than Columbia, South Carolina.</p>
<p>Perhaps this should be another thread, but it is an interesting point. What rights do parents have as far as demands on their children if parents pay for college?</p>
<p>Require that:
Student tries her best, studies, and passes classes. Is it appropriate to require a certain GPA? </p>
<p>Student follows family moral code, whatever that is. Example: parent refuses to pay if D moves in with boyfriend? Let the “pretend husband” pay? Difficult questions. If the parent is offended by a lip ring, nose ring, tatoo, whatever, is he/she justified in refusing to continue to pay for college?</p>
<p>It is true that when we pay for our “adult” children’s activities, college or otherwise, we do have some say in their behavior. If they want independence, they are free to take it, along with the responsibilities.</p>
<p>Is it okay to pay for the engineering major, but if you change your major to theater, you’re on your own? I’m not willing to go that far, but I do sympathize with a parent who won’t subsidize the honeymoon cottage with the boyfriend.</p>
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this thread does exist … I’m sure a search would find it … lots of different opinions on how much say parents have (often depending on how much they are paying) … that said TONS of agreement that whatever the parental rules are they should be known by the student with enough lead-time for the student to make a realistic and appropriate application list.</p>