<p>Honestly these parents who be too involve as you say really be trying to live thru their kids I think. I blame the lazy generation I live in on the parents ALWAYS trying to do this and that for their children nevEr Pushing THem to do it on their own… We need to teach our kids some indePEndeNce! My mA was a helicopter mom then she got real sick now the tables have turn N I look after her at 21[n Aug] I’m actuallY angry Wit her On the cool BecUz I’m tryna find a g00d c0llege/job and don’t kno up frm dwn n vice versa… She use to take care oF aLL dat I never had to do anything but JUsT shOW up… AnYwy long story Short: She hANdlede ALl my business WhEn I waS A teenagER got SIck n Now I’m Struggling N my Early twenties t0 have FOundaTIon cuz sHE dIdn’t MAke me DO It sHe DId& its haRd. Parents I know y0u tHInk y0u do better theN your KIds WHen IT cum to taking care of business, but experience is THe beSt tEAchER n you w0n’t be Here fORever…</p>
<p>^^^^Whoa. Took a couple of readings, but I finally got it.</p>
<p>nrdsb4: My college graduate son, the one with a 3.5 gpa in Honors Eco just got off the phone with the deli owner. I knew there was a job out there and figured the first living, breathing person to ask for it would get it. So, after some prodding, my son finally got the courage to call. I kept trying to walk away from him, but he was getting hung up with what to say (“I don’t have any experience but I can … I can…I can…”). He stood right near me and his face turned beet red and I could see he was shaking and holding his breath. Finally the phone call ended: he’s set to go there tomorrow. But before he could tell me the news, he had to throw up. </p>
<p>I’ll drive there and he’ll follow me in a separate car, so he knows where to go. The rest is up to him. Launched! </p>
<p>Okay, this isn’t the jacket-and-tie job he’s hoping to get one day, but this is a painful first step.</p>
<p>^^^That’s great Limabeans. I bet he’ll never view that as a pleasant experience, but I imagine once the trauma of it wears off, he’ll feel good about himself that he got through it. Baby steps, or as someone else said far better, “forward motion.”</p>
<p>I was going to suggest a script before a phone call (that’s what I still do, sometimes…create talking points at least) but I see for some kids it’s not the perfect solution.</p>
<p>At least he did it!</p>
<p>And if the questions go “off script” just remember to say “I’m really smart and I’m sure I can learn anything I need to know.” :)</p>
<p>^^^^^^I used to say “I’m a pretty fast learner.” Then they put me in the lawn and garden department by myself one night at Montgomery Wards when I was only 16. Thank God no one asked me any questions, lol.</p>
<p>Hang in there limabeans! And good luck to your son!</p>
<p>Did anyone see this morning’s “Zits” cartoon? REAL helicopter mom! :D</p>
<p>^^^^^Ha ha. Yep.</p>
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