<p>Oh, I agree, PTMom, I didn’t mean to imply that she should be told that she “has” to be there. I don’t think I said that, did I? I’ve been through the ‘sharing’ holidays issue with my girls’ boyfriends’ families and I know that I’d love to have them ALL here for ALL holidays, and with their b/fs! But it’s not realistic and I HAVE learned to share them. ;)</p>