<p>goaliedad’s post says it all.</p>
<p>Especially when a young woman is shy and in a new situation, she is vulnerable to the first person who takes an interest, slacker or not.</p>
<p>My heart breaks in advance for her because (we hope) this will not have a happy ending for her. She <em>will</em> wake up one day. My advice is to calmly let her know what your feelings are and that when the day comes that he’s gone you will be there for her. But I also agree that you do not have to financially support her position. Don’t use that as a threat, but just as a fact that while you might continue tuition payments, room and board or allowance are out. She wants to be an independent adult, so let her. Opportunity will still be there when he’s gone.</p>