HELP - dgtr wants to move in with boyfriend

<p>I guess what screams out at me is that it’s time for a transfer. She hasn’t connected with the school, and is looking for connections outside of it–and she’s not even making the outside connections interesting or helpful. The BF sounds like a pet. If your daughter is as shy and open with you as it sounds, is she also compliant? Would she follow GD’s suggestion and come home for a semester, take courses at a local school, and then try the residential living again elsewhere?</p>

<p>I see a drop-out ahead. It’s very hard to maintain an academic life style when you’re living and associating with people who don’t do that also. Been there, tried it, it doesn’t work. I was very confused during my first two years as to what I wanted to do–bounced around from communications to journalism to english. Left the dorm to move in with my (pro) guitar-slinger boyfriend (what else?), stopped going to classes a month later, and spent the next year+ living the life of a Boston rocker’s girlfriend. Sex & drugs & Rock’n Roll 24/7. There are things about that year that I will remember when I’m sitting on a rocking chair in the nursing home cackling for no apparent reason, but it’s always been the part of my life that I most regret, in retrospect. Not that my parents could have done anything about it–I’m not shy, and I didn’t communicate with them at all for that year–my choice. When it was over, they were there for me anyway, as dig mentioned above. I did find my way back and completed my degree (in history) with honors, but I feel I was lucky. If it must be, it will pass, but if you can gently short-circuit it, it would be much better.</p>