roycroftmom, you can’t pick and choose the insurance coverage. The OP said the family was withdrawing insurance coverage (and they don’t have to provide it) but if he has no insurance and gets hit by the truck, he’s an uninsured person. I believe this student is in a state that hasn’t expanded medicaid, so he’s SOL.
Family friends have a child who is transgendered. We’ve been friends since our children were in the NICU together, so 22 years. Their child was in therapy for more than 4 years before any decisions were made, any announcements were made. During that time, the child and family had a lot of traumas to deal with too, so she was exploring all types of possibilities including that she might not be transgendered but reacting to the traumas (mother almost died in child birth, best friend (also from the NICU) died after a lifetime of medical issues, other family members with health issues…) The parents are very supportive and even left their church because they knew there wouldn’t be support if the child ultimately decided she was trans or gay or wanted to live a different way. But they’ve made other decisions that the family in the OP didn’t. They did not send their child away to school (she commuted) because there were a lot of decisions to be made, therapies to attend, medical and financial issues to deal with. They needed all that time to make decisions and they knew their child needed their support so being away at college wasn’t in the child’s best interest.
What is rather ironic is that this child probably wouldn’t be here if she’d been born a boy. Almost all 24 week preemies who survive are female or a minority race, and this was even more true 22 years ago. I really do not know one male, white, 24 weeker who made it, and I know dozens of female survivors.
In a very few cases, parents can be court ordered to pay SOME college expenses for instate in NJ. Part of this thread was that the student was at an OOS school so even if they are from NJ, no one is going to order them to pay OOS tuition.
The sunglasses comment was because on another thread it was argued that three 19 year old basketball players shouldn’t have been held responsible for stealing sunglasses while on a trip to China because the 19 year old mind is so undeveloped that one can’t expect them to be responsible for impulses or major decisions. On this thread, people think an 18 year old can make a major decision that the parents don’t agree with. The parents of this student are asking their child to wait, wait until that 18 year old mind matures a little.