Ok @IBviolamom just a few thoughts:
It would probably be best if you stayed out of another family’s business. Have you spoken to the parents directly, or are you making an assumption? How are you entitled to make judement calls on another family’s child?
This “child” is 18. Does that make her a child or an adult? Legally it makes her an adult. As an adult, she can make the decision to be male or female. This also means that her parents are under no obligation to financially support her in any way whatsoever. I have many friends who paid for their college tuition on their own, through jobs, hard work, and insurance that can be provided by the college. This girl is not abandoned. She has every resource available to her that allows her to work, make money, and live the male lifestyle that she chooses to pursue. College is a privilege, not a right. If her priority lies with becoming a male, then that is where she needs to focus. If she wants an education, then she needs to put her education first. Her father stated this in his reply. They simply asked her to wait until after college. They did not say that she could never undergo treatment to become a male. As sound and fit parents, that is a fair statement to ask of someone who you pay college tuition, room and board, and give money for extracurricular activities. I say again, all of that is a PRIVELEGE, not a guarantee or a right that a child is entitled to. I happen to know the family and know that they are well off financially. I see this as a response from a child who has been given everything and has had her way her entire life, and is now upset because mom and dad won’t hand over money for her to do what she wants to do at the moment. It’s called being spoiled, and it’s an epidemic that unfortunately plagues most teen and college aged people. The world has seen that crying on social media for not getting one’s way has become an enabling tool to finally get what one wants. Here in lies the problem in this situation. If this girl is as passionate about changing her sex and beginning hormone treatment as the go fund me page suggests, then she needs to be able to accept the financial responsibilities that come with being an adult and making such a life changing decision. Your parenting abilities have me worried for your child’s sake. Her father clearly stated their medical concerns for their daughter, so the best thing that you can do for that girl and her family is leave them all alone! Focus on loving your family. Her family still loves her, regardless. They have not left her in jeopardy for her life. She has the ability to talk this out with her parents. At this time, she needs to decide if she is going to be a child or an adult.