A family friend is getting married. The daughter is 27 and was my summer nanny for 5 years. I just love her. Her Mom and I are good friends. Her bridal shower is coming up and I want to get her a loungewear piece. She is more on the quiet and conservative side, so I don’t want to overstep and get her something with a thong. I have no idea if she wears one or not. I don’t want to get her something fuddy duddy either. I want it to be sexy, but elegant, too. There are variations of these. Which type should I go with?
Did she specifically ask for lingerie? Many young women these days have no interest in it. I’d check with her mom to confirm that it is something she’d like.
I expect some interesting ads to pop up in my ad feeds… 
What nottelling said. They sleep in sweats and tees they got from college events… Even when SO are with them.
I got quite a few pieces many moons ago when I got married. Never wore any of them. That said, I like the second one best.
My kiddos would approve this:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/kate-spade-new-york-eat-cake-for-breakfast-graphic-sleepshirt/4331888
If she is on the conservative side, the ones that you link are pretty sexy… not conservative enough, IMO. I would have been weirded out if I received a see-through nightie from my mom’s friend when I was 27.
I like the second one best too. As long as you provide a gift receipt, she can take it back and get something different if she doesn’t want it.
I don’t imagine she would sleep in it.
She wouldn’t be weirded out. Our relationship is a little closer than that.
If you have to go with a nightie… Here is a very cute one, and it leaves something to the imagination (not see-through):
http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/kate-spade-new-york-lace-trim-dot-chemise/4343995
Echoing above. I don’t know any women my age who wear nighties.
I’m a very open person about sexuality and whatnot and even I’d be a little weirded out if someone was buying me “sexy” clothes… especially if that person was like a parent figure to me.
I think I’d err on the side of NOT giving lingerie or anything “sexy” to a beloved former nanny. Something timeless like a crystal vase, dish or clock maybe, but not sexy clothing.
I would not give a quiet and conservative young woman see-through lingerie at a bridal shower.
You guys are kill joys.
Seriously, this is something her bridesmaids should buy her. I agree with the suggestion to get crystal or something else that’s relatively “permanent.” She’ll think of you everytime she uses it.
I love classic lingerie and my favorite in your OP is #2. Here is something classic that I like a lot. It comes in a “blush” color that adds a little pink/coral to the pic that you see. It is very pretty - I have it in the “blush” color. It’s on sale!
Thinking we should make this a “girls only” thread.
http://www.natori.com/Lingerie/Chemises/Natori-Boudoir-All-Over-Lace-Chemise#
If this is a shower, get her a kitchen thingamajig. A serving platter - not sexy, but so useful IRL.
I think guys should chime in, too. After all, aren’t they the biggest buyers of lingerie?
Okay. I’m getting the lingerie ads now and they are a little bit more risque than what’s posted on this thread. X_X
In my experience, older, presumably comfortable friends should buy the useful, expensive things, like the food processor or the mixer.
I’d love to get a KitchenAid stand mixer. In red, if you want sexy.
Well. I answered the question in my first response, but I tend to agree about not getting lingerie for a former nanny. I would go for a kitchen thing. A nice cutting board, knife, or a couple of nice wine glasses could be in about the same price range.
If they are going on a beach honeymoon, a straw hat and sunblock combo, some cute beach towels, etc. would make a good gift.
I am a HUUUUGE Kate Spade Home fan. These are beyond adorable:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/kate-spade-new-york-larabee-dot-champagne-flutes-set-of-4/3440807