@LasMa, yes there’s a menopause thread
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1425441-hot-flashes-do-they-continue-for-months-or-years-not-each-one-p1.html
Everyone else, carry on.
Thanks, katliamom. 
Dang! Still no nighties in my ads. I got shoes, ads for Bloomingdale’s at Ala Moana (duh, I wish I were in Honolulu!), and… and ad for a some strange book titled Courtroom Handbook on Federal Evidence - where did THAT one come from?
lol
When I was in my mid-twenties I supervised a group of about half a dozen employees just out of college, mostly guys and one woman. She was getting married, and we collected some money for a gift. The guys went to the mall at lunch one day to pick the gift, and when they got back they showed me what they had gotten – a (ahem) naughty nightgown. They thought it was hilarious, but I marched 'em back to get something more appropriate from the work team.
Don’t have much opinion on this except to say that not everyone wants to be embarrassed at a shower – I’d have been mortified myself to open lingerie in front of a crowd. Some showers are co-ed now, too.
I know my own D would both laugh and eyeroll at the idea of sexy lingerie. OP’s ex-nanny is described as quite conservative, so perhaps she’s still a virgin, but that’s such a rarity these days that the old notion of gift wrapping a bride in silk and lace for her wedding night seems rather absurd. Chances are the groom has seen her in her favorite threadbare oversized tee shirt many times and would be entirely taken aback to find her decked out in some fancy transparent number. I’m even surprised so much of this stuff is still sold.
Obviously there are buyers for sexy sleepwear, even if most of them haven’t joined this thread. :x
I’ve bought young gals flannel,pants and matching tops from the Gap, which I know they wear.
Years ago, my mom and I would go to L & Taylor’s to buy an aunt and me a long nightgown. It was a tradition, which is why I carried it forward for son and his g/f.
My mom, OTOH, loved lingerie. She had many silk sets. Nothing sexy, just beautiful.
As a mother of sons, let me assure you that sexy lingerie is still appreciated and shopped for… Even if standard wear is sweats. They are not going to be “taken aback” but very grateful for the effort to spice up a special evening.
Seriously, you guys wonder why so much of this stuff is still sold? I think you’re all showing your age.
We are not wondering why it is still sold… We are buying it - for ourselves. 
FYI - Saks’ FF will be “up to 30% off” and will start this weekend.
When I was a teenager my grandma(dad’s mom) bought my mom a sexy night gown for Christmas…I don’t know if she ever wore it but I do remember the look on her face when she opened it in front of the family… 8-|
All I’m saying as a woman about the age of the woman mentioned in the OP is that not all of us would be grateful for this.
I have lots of female friends getting married in the next year or so. Not one would like this type of gift… especially from someone of their parent’s generation. I’m not telling the OP not to get it or to get it. I’m just giving a perspective.
As I said, I have no problem talking about sex with people of any age. I do it a lot. My parents’ friends send their kids to me for blunt talk about sex. And I STILL wouldn’t want a nightie (or robe or anything wearable really…) from anyone… especially not from someone whose kids I used to babysit.
I don’t think anyone is wondering whether the young lady in question and/or her groom would like sexy nightwear – she may or may not, and he probably would. What some of us are wondering is whether it should be given to her by someone older, and a former boss to boot. And I’m with romani and others in thinking that a shower wouldn’t be the best venue for giving something so overtly seductive, especially since this young lady is modest anyway. I think she’ll be mortified. I would have been, and I’m not even all that modest.
Not saying you all feel this way. But this clearly does:
Just pointing out that some grooms would be quite happy with a fancy transparent number. Not sure they would want somebody else purchasing it, but he wouldn’t be “taken aback”. And the part about being surprised it’s still being sold quite surprised me. Even some of us old ladies still appreciate this stuff. I know my husband does.
The thing is, you aren’t likely to even know what THIS couple likes or dislikes regarding nightwear. Romani doesn’t care for the sexy stuff, and neither does my older daughter. But I have no idea what half of my adult nieces like, and I’m pretty close to them. As for a former, even “close” employee? I don’t think a nightie would be the best choice, ESPECIALLY since there is so much variety in preference among all women, not just younger ones who are former employees.
Just as an aside-my own H does NOT care for such lingerie. His opinion, stated very early on, is that if it’s coming off anyway, why not skip that step? To each his own.
Giving lingerie at a shower is “tame” compared to the sex toy showers that apparently are en vogue these days. I can handle opening lingerie but I’d be running for the hills with “adult toys.” Can you imagine? Who thinks up this stuff?
“Even some of us old ladies still appreciate the stuff.”
That’s precisely my 20-year-old daughter’s objection to it. I asked her what comes to mind when she thinks of sexy nightgowns and she said – “It’s what a 45-year-old, cougar-type wears to look sexy” – i.e. something for an older generation.
Lingerie is not just nighties - walk into that store Victoria Secret - this is what some high school and college girls are wearing every day underneath their clothes. Lots of thongs and lacy push up bras. That’s lingerie too. And although I am not a fan of that store, you cannot deny the success of that brand and the catalog. Think they say the catalog is looked at by more men than women.
I think many don’t get into the whole sexy lingerie thing. I’ve seen more than one survey that has shown that guys prefer boy cut underwear on women which are not skimpy, see thru, lacy or frilly compared to a lot of other options out there.