<p>Thanks guys, this is really helpful. Of course I made up the grades. I picked the numbers based on how he’s done so far, because I thought it would be helpful to have grades to base things on. It’s quite possible that he’ll get lower grades, but I suspect from what I’ve seen the general idea that, for my kid, honors will translate into a lower GPA than on level.</p>
<p>It seems like the consensus is it makes sense to start in honors and move down, rather than starting low and moving up. It also may make sense to select a blend, in his case this would mean honors social studies, probably honors English and math, and likely on level science and foreign language. Our school system seems to bend over backwards to accomodate parent wishes, so while they do make suggestions I feel like we’ll have a lot of say. </p>
<p>Why do I describe him as “average”, when in fact he gets pretty good grades? I think that’s a good question. I read here a lot, where people describe their B student as a “bright underachiever”. They talk about kids being pulled down by low homework grades or lackadaisical approaches to academic tasks. This is not my son’s situation. My kid is incredibly hard working, and strategic about using the resources that he has. For example, he started off the school year this year with struggles in Honors English. During the first month of the year he failed 3 tests in a row. As of the midpoint in the quarter his grade sat right on the line between a D and an E. What did he do? He set up tutoring appointments before and after school with his teacher, asked me to find him some online resources and then used them until he mastered them, and spent hours with me reviewing the concepts he didn’t get. He retook all 3 tests, and on two of them retook them twice. After all that hard work, he ended up with 2 B’s and an A. I’m incredibly proud of his attitude and his approach to task, but I also realize that there are plenty of kids in his class who got A’s and B’s on the first tests wtih far less effort.</p>
<p>Finally, someone asked what are my goals for him for college? That he love it as much as I did. That he can find a place where he can explore different things and discover a passion that he can build a life around. That he feel like he has an array of options to choose from. I don’t care whether that place is ranked 10th or 200th, but I do care that he feels like he chose it. I also see that it frustrates him when others aren’t serious about their studies, so I’d like a place where people value learning. </p>
<p>When I look at him as a learner, I wonder if a smaller setting would suit him better. He learns best when teachers are accessible to students, and when the learning is hands on and engaging. In addition, he’s got a wide range of ECs he likes, and someplace where you don’t have to be a virtuoso to sing in the chorus, or where he has a shot of making the football team would likely make him happy. My brother, who I think of as quite similar as a learner, went to Bates and loved it. I think my son would love a similar small LAC experience, although Bates itself has changed a lot and might well be out of reach. I also think he might do well in an honors college program in a second tier state school, rather than being the middle of the pack in a flagship.</p>