Although you needed to quit for your reasons, I don’t think you should block the employer completely and leave him without anyone to ask questions or ask how you handled things. You said you were well paid and liked the work.
I don’t mean you should be taken advantage of. You’re away for the weekend and shouldn’t expect to be bothered, but come Monday or Tuesday, give the guy an hour of your time. Go out on a high note and be nice.
But he can email her with questions.
In my resignation letter, I detailed several things out…who I’d called this week, what he needs to do in the old online Checking, what’s in my files, how to access passwords, etc. I felt I went out on a high note like that. Since blocking goes to voicemail, I can decide if what he wants warrants a response. He can also email me. But I get what you’re saying.
Kill her with kindness…
^^That business is no longer OP’s circus, and the witchy employee is no longer her monkeys. ?
Congratulations, @conmama! You won! Enjoy your summer with your S. Blocking the calls seems quite reasonable, and you have the ability to answer emails and voicemails at your leisure. It sure did sound like an increasingly toxic work environment so it’s good you were able to leave before it started having seriously bad effects on your health. Great move and good modeling for your loved ones!
Oh my gosh, I guess I must have been on page 9 so long @conmama wrote that and I didn’t see it! And I must have skipped a few pages!!
Well, she can breathe a sigh of relief then!!
Well hallelujah! We changed banks with our business once and we prepped for a long time beforehand and kept it open for like a year afterwards. The thought of all my work auto pays and auto deposits makes me quiver at the thought of switching like that.
I don’t have an issue with him golfing, he’s the boss and what was he going to do about it. But his attitude makes me think he and that woman are well suited for working together.
Enjoy your summer!
Well, that explains a lot. If he treats your coworker that way and she can’t afford to quit no wonder she’s so miserable.
Sounds like the boss was on his “good behavior” for you, since @$25/he, you’re much cheaper than his $185/hr help. Sounds like he showed his true colors because he felt things weren’t going his way and he wouldn’t spend the time & energy to get things fixed properly.
I am glad you don’t have to work for such a boss and feel bad for those who do, including the woman you had difficulty with.
@himom, yes I agree he was on his best behavior, I behaved professional, friendly and polite (but private), all the time. I worked like a dog for 9 weeks. I knew yesterday when he started browbeating me like I’ve heard him do to others and in the phone, a line had been crossed.
He’s a decent, good man. But a lousy business owner. He needs a bookkeeper who is as loud as him and has no problems speaking his language, giving it back to him, and telling him how ridiculous his ideas are, etc. and she enjoys that type of interaction. I don’t, that’s not my style, but he’d probably love it. Even at its most stressful in my career, when tempers rose, the supervisory staff showed restraint in dealing with subordinates. That’s why people lasted decades. (Plus the insurance, vacation, 401k, etc. haha).
DH said he didn’t have an issue with him golfing, I just guess he was all over me to get out the door to do that, when business at hand needed to be taken care of first and he was blaming me.
I do feel bad just leaving, I truly do, but I couldn’t be around him (or her) after a notice.
Nothing more needs to be said.
Congrats, @conmama for taking care of yourself. There is no reason to reward abusive behavior with kindness, and you do not need to work in a hostile environment. Glad you got out. Have a great summer!
There is no reason to tolerate a hostile work environment. If he needs a bookkeeper, he needs to find one he can keep or learn not to be abusive. No one needs to tolerate a hostile, abusive work environment. Abuse from a coworker is bad enough, but getting it from the boss too sounds like a lose-lose situation.
Good job in quitting when the boss can’t be professional.
In this situation, it seems to me that the boss may have contributed to the mean attitude of the coworker. Good decision to quit in this case. No one needs that level of hassle.
I spoke to the turnaround accountant today. The owner received my letter this morning, and immediately called her. He said he’ll talk to the wicked witch if I’ll come back. So, we had a long discussion and she totally agrees with my decision. She felt bad that I was in that situation and would have left immediately if spoken to like I was by the boss yesterday. He is reluctant to get on her because he’s afraid she’ll leave, too. So, that’s their dysfunction they can deal with. Outside accountant asked if I was still wanting to work and if something comes up in her company (she hires P/T), or hears something she’ll let me know. I told her I was taking time off right now.
How nice to be validated by someone who also saw what was going on.
It sounds like he’s not grasping how much his actions contributed to his current situation. That’s pretty sad. He’ll probably take it out on that disagreeable coworker. Then she’ll be even more unhappy.
@conmama , you mentioned that one of the real plusses of this job was the pay - seemed it was higher than what you were finding elsewhere? I wonder if he is paying top dollar…because he has been through other employees and better pay was his way to attract someone who would be tempted to stay because the $$ was too good to pass up…?
Just read through the thread and was holding my breath while @conmama was in such an uncomfortable situation. Breathed a sigh of relief when she quit! Happy for you, @conmama! Enjoy the summer with your son. You can decide in the fall if you want to try to find something else or not. And nice to have the woman in your corner! (Can’t recall how you referenced her.)