I don’t get it either. Granted, as I mentioned, I wasn’t born in this country, so it may be a cultural thing, but all the gifting and the notes, for every single occasion from visiting to funerals to someone bringing food to your house - to me, it’s way too much. I would try to do it, just not to be rude, I guess. But I hope people don’t do it for me. If I give you a gift, I don’t want you to spend time writing me a thank-you note. If I invite you to my house, I don’t need a gift. I think all these things make life way too complicated where it doesn’t have to be. Just my $0.02.