<p>It’s a balance as you’re finding out. Don’t fall behind in school work and don’t overdo. Right…now what? You (and her) have to decide. If she’s on meds, you’ll start to see the renewed energy but as ordinary points out the underlying issues are still there. But life isn’t going to stop to correct all those issues in a timely matter for a high school student. Even in her present state she may feel the need to continue in school studies and will probably do well despite her problems if she’s on an upswing.</p>
<p>Take your cues from your D–does she want to get back to school? A total no-go? Will a push-through keep her on a reasonable track? Is there a compromise solution (work from home?–schools can be accommodating). Just throwing options out and hoping for the best for you and your D.</p>
<p>This is late, but FWIW, I went through periods of self-injury (cutting) and suicidal ideation last year–now resolved–as a young adult (early 20’s). I’m close to my parents, but I still haven’t told them about what went on and don’t intend to. It’s an extremely hard topic to discuss with anyone, and I didn’t want them to panic or think poorly of me. So, please don’t think your D not being open with you at first is a reflection of your relationship or her love for you.</p>
<p><em>hugs</em> and best wishes to you and your D.</p>
<p>Applebaum, thank you for that. I gives me hope to know that you have been able to resolve this. I do imagine how hard it is to bring this up to your parents. Best wishes to you as well.</p>
<p>wells - my 15-year-old daughter was also diagnosed with depression and “threat of self-injury” this fall. She started meds and treatment about a month ago. Her doctor and therapist have strongly encouraged keeping her in school (boarding school). She’s about a half-hour away but sleeps there so we see her about once a week. I struggle with wanting to pull her out of school and take away the stress and let her focus on treatment… so I guess it’s a struggle either way. DH and I have decided to follow medical advice unless we feel “parent-spidey-sense tinglings” and so far we don’t. </p>
<p>I know exactly how you feel. How could I not have known? I just keep telling myself that it doesn’t matter what I knew or know or understand - just that I love her and support the experts in getting her better (with a great deal of research and learning on my part in process - because that’s how I deal with things).</p>
<p>My younger sister has been diagnosed at different times as bipolar, borderline personality, and paranoid something-not-schizophrenic-but-related-to-drug-abuse (sorry, can’t remember offhand) – and my extended family has much experience with denial. So for now, we’re not really telling them much. We’ll see if that changes down the road.</p>
<p>If you want to add some posts quick so you can PM, I once heard it suggested that you can just go to the “chance me” threads for elite schools and tell all the high schoolers they need safety schools… Don’t forget to laugh - it’s the best medicine for you so that you can take care of her.</p>
Don’t forget to laugh - it’s the best medicine for you so that you can take care of her.</p>