<p>One of my team members, who I recruited, is suddenly becoming very… loud, I guess. I’m not sure how to say it. I am the team leader, and before, he acknowledged my position, but he is becoming very loud, bossy, backing out of his own word and making team decisions for us. How do I show him that I am the leader? He’s getting on my nerves a lot, because he always treats the rest of the team like inferiors, like we don’t know as much as him. I will say if I don’t understand something to discuss it with them, but he always acts like I’m stupid and keeps saying ‘I researched. I did this. I did that. Let me explain this to you.’ Sorry for the word wall.</p>
<p>His “research” isn’t the same thing as your experience. I know that it’s hard to directly say something to a member without coming off rude, but you could tell him that he doesn’t have the authority to make decisions for the rest of the team. Have you talked to the other members about this too? </p>
<p>@awakeningvenus There is only one other team member, but he’s a bit aloof. Yeah, I don’t want to directly confront him, because he becomes very, very defensive which only results in him calling me too inferring or direct. I chose him for the team become I don’t have many options, and he IS ambitious. His ambitiousness makes him want to lead everything he does, which is getting on my nerves so much. Thanks for replying, though!</p>
<p>A team of three? What kind of team is it anyway?</p>
<p>A threesome.</p>
<p>Hmm. Well considering that it’s a team, disagreements can be really counter-productive to what needs to get done. Maybe you could reason with him to at least meet you halfway with your decisions? You could tell him that you understand his point of view, but you see things differently, or you could incorporate his ideas in when they seem fit. It seems like the idea of needing an absolute leader is getting in the way when all three of you should be collaborating. Of course, I also don’t know what the team is for, but that’s the general advice I can give.</p>
<p>@dsi455 The competition we are entering limits the team to three, lol</p>
<p>@angelacao what competition is this?</p>
<p>@awakeningvenus We haven’t really had any official disagreements. It’s more like I make a decision, he takes credit, says he did more research, and makes decisions, like what topics we will be doing. :)</p>
<p>@wcao9311 We are currently fluctuating between Google Science Fair and Siemens. We had a big disagreement about this, but I managed to create a tight compromise between his voice growing high and higher and me trying to calm him down.</p>
<p>@angelacao assuming ur in 8th grade, just do it for the experience. In HS consider solo projects.</p>