I agree with that completely. Big hugs to you. It’s hard losing and missing your dad so much. 
Not married, but living with two of my young adult children. However, one can still be lonely, especially when another family member has friends and a social life and you don’t.
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@kidzncatz it might even be possible to be more lonely with others around. Still, the experience of being alone mostly 24/7 for the last few years does make me ponder that question, especially as I get older and less able to do things.
It looks like you have cats. As a renter my biggest problem is not having pets. I want a cat!
Andy Huggins (self-described old guy) : delivery is hilarious
I am afraid of falling so I wear a helmet. Then I am afraid of looking ridiculous so I carry a skateboard.
I started posting on social media. The bulletin board at Kroger’s.
I went to an antique store and they wouldn’t let me leave.
I looked up my spirit animal and it said extinct.
It’s tough getting older. I looked up at that light and started to walk toward it.
etc.
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Something always aches. But not always the same body part each day.
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I’m happy that PT seems to be helping my right knee already. Yay! In addition to assigning me daily exercises, my therapist is using dry needling and electrical stimulation. I’m kind of leery of that stuff, but it really is working. 
Too bad I have to pay for it all out-of-pocket, though.
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I’m down to one cat, having lost two to illness/old age this year. But we also have 2 young dogs. I can well imagine how lonely I’d be with no family members, human or pet, living with me. I can definitely sympathize.
I just had to go buy more sympathy cards, I have run out. Ugh.
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Thanks! I am not too lonely (I don’t mind being alone) honestly but I like cats, dogs and other animals. I dog and cat sit to make up for it.
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Last month I was at a lovely celebration of life (no service, just socializing and eating, dozens of people inside and out on the deck… saw many former coworkers etc). While there, a dear friend texted that her husband had died. Yikes, that seemed too much death in a week. I then realized that…. sigh… this kind of thing is gonna happen as we age. (If I don’t want star in an obit myself, I’m gonna be reading a lot of obits).
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I’ve learned to finally let go to those who don’t reciprocate. It doesn’t have to be the same mode of invite. But when I start feeling foolish for investing my time in Whoever, and hear nothing in return, I know it’s time to move on.
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I am a very nervous hostess.
I do however force myself to reciprocate when asked by others. It’s not easy and it’s not fun for me but as an adult I understand that I need to put myself out there.
Anymore, I will buy pulled pork from the barbecue place or buy things from Costco. Because it helps my anxiety to make things easy.
I wish I felt more secure but I don’t and I’m accepting that I’m not going to change.
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Lately, we’ve found it easier to reciprocate by just taking folks out to eat and not worry that it’s not an invitation to come to our house. It works—it shows we want to see them too.
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@deb922, my SIL (sister-in-law as opposed to son-in-law) says proudly, “I didn’t make it but I made it possible.” We have another friend who entertains more than we do (lots of charity events in addition to social). She pointed us to an Armenian store (actually 3) who can easily provide anything needed for a meal. ShawWife has an opening in a local gallery tomorrow night. We have probably 25-30 people coming to our house thereafter. She has put in an order at one of these stores and I am going to pick it up tomorrow.
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A friend of mine hosted the bunco group every year. She ordered from a local favorite thai place and put everything on pretty serving dishes. Everyone knew, but no one cared. The food and company were great!
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If any of these are in Watertown you are very lucky. We always have to stop in to at least two of them on our way home to NJ after visiting family in the area.
This is our favorite
And to keep this on topic, I feel so old after leaving the store because I always think about how an Armenian friend of my mother’s taught me to make her rice pilaf a long time ago.
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Sevan is the primary store. I will be stopping there tomorrow.
Have fun!
Not sure where to put this but I am so, so touched by it that I’m going to put it here because it is about aging.
Coldplay is my fav band. I have loved this song but did not know it was a tribute to Dick Van Dyke. Be sure to watch the video as well - it’s so touching
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For older renters: has anyone ever consider a senior apartment (NOT a CCC facility) in an effort to connect with like-minded, or at least like-aged population?
We rent an apartment in the PNW part of the year (like snowbirds), but have found very limited social opportunities, except for a few friends that occasionally meet for coffee after an exercise class. Outside of that, they have their own busy lives with work colleagues, families, and lifetime friends. Volunteering is tough to find as part-timers, and MeetUps also rare in our area.
We’ve considered looking for a senior only, independent living, apartment complex for our away home, but DH is more hesitant to move to a senior only facility. He far prefers to find a rental that just happens to be occupied by other seniors. Haven’t found that (yet).