<p>“Are you better off with him or without him”
I have heard this before but how does one know how one would be without him until they are there?</p>
<p>Re arrogance and needing to be right: my dad and mother in law were/are like this. To disagree with them in their mind means you are saying you think they are stupid.</p>
<p>Some people struggle with making decisions because they fear making the ‘wrong’ decision and thinking that others will think them stupid. He might not want to weigh in on a vet because what if the vet turns out to be a bad one it will get blamed on him and people will think less of him.</p>
<p>People who need to be ‘perfect’ are under a lot of stress and they don’t like their actions questioned. They are also very hard to live with and very hard for them to change their ingrained attitude.</p>
<p>I suspect he will blame you for all of the troubles if you decide to divorce. In the dark times, remember that his behavior is out of your control, only your reaction to his behavior is in your control.</p>