I just woke DS2 up at 12:30. It will be dark again in 5 hours. It really annoys me, but I don’t know what to do! DH and I go to bed way earlier than them, and they are too old to be told when to go to bed. But should there be a cap on how late they can sleep?
Unless I need them to do something, or we are going somewhere, I just let mine sleep in. I admit, though, that it annoys me as well. 
The good news is that, once they are in The Real World, they outgrow it. Mostly.
Is there something he should be doing that he’s NOT doing? Like getting to a job, taking care of timely chores, etc.??
Is he using his time to do things later, when you’re asleep? If so, how would you feel if he said you had to stay up later - that you’re going to bed too early???
It annoys me too. I’ll let you go to noon, but beyond that is pretty ridiculous unless there is some extenuating circumstance - like you’re sick, or you worked a midnight shift.
I’m not sure they outgrow it when they’re home. My sons rarely sleep past noon when they’re here (like they did when they were in HS and college), but I don’t bother waking them up unless we have some place to be or something to do. They certainly both sleep later than DH and I do, but they also go to bed much later too. It doesn’t bother me as much as it used to.
Obviously, since they’re both gainfully employed, they do manage to get up when they have to.
I am glad my dd wakes up by 9am. She goes to bed by 10 or 11pm.
She volunteers at the hospital so on those days she gets up at 7:30am to reach by 9am.
@abasket …well, that’s what DH tells me all the time. Actually, there is nothing DS2 needs to do, it just goes against the esrly to bed, early to rise theory we have always lived by. We have some friends who said there is a study, although I have never seen it, that a high percentage of swimmers succeed over the majority. They are used to getting up early, and are disciplined.
I don’t mind it when they’re just recuperating from late nights from final exams.
I was only annoyed when it appeared that they were doing this to avoid having to do any “work around the house.” It’s not like they would do these chores later, which would have been fine with me.
I don’t like the: stay up until 2am…sleep…wake up at noon/1pm…drag butt out of bed…eat…watch some TV while continuing to wake up…then drag their butts to the shower, dress…then it’s off to visit friends.
When they’re doing the latter, then it just becomes a way to avoid any household responsibilities, because even if they get back at 11pm, it’s not like they are going to do chores then, and I don’t expect them to…and they know that.
We let our children sleep to noon if they like the first couple of days after finals, however after that they have to get up at a reasonable time…for us that’s around 9am. Two things we do to make that a reality is we schedule dentist appointments and such for 10am-ish…actually did that today…and we turn down the heat in the house around 11pm.
^^…yes, that happens half or more of the time. The argument is…there’s nothing going on here! And it’s hard to argue with that but still.
Personally that would mess up my sleep cycle. The days I wake up later on the weekends. (7:30 instead of 6am) makes me feel like I am running behind with the time all day. The days I wake up earlier it seems the day is bigger which I like. I think a few days of rest after finals is fine but after that they should wake up by breakfast time not lunch time. (noon) This is what works for me at least. I don’t get waking up at noon. (unless someone is sick)
OMG…ok…DS1 got back at 12:00 from spending the night with a bunch of buddies. When they know they will be drinking, they stay put so I’m cool with that. 2 hours later…he’s gone to a huge discount outdoor mall an hour away. The one I just got up at 12:30…well, less than 90 minutes later he is gone to the mall with friends.
I think I’m going to watch a Christmas movie this afternoon. It’s ugly, cold and rainy and I don’t feel like running errands.
I miss my 30 hour week job.
Have to admit that I took a certain devilish delight when D was scheduled to work every morning this week (same job she had in HS–but most schools around here hold classes through Wednesday, so the HS students aren’t available to work during the day). She will need to be out of the house between 8 and 9 each day. Late afternoon naps are likely, and she’ll get to sleep in some of the days between from Christmas to New Year’s, but that won’t bug me since it won’t be every day of break.
DD1 and DD2 pulled some all night studying for finals. DD2 came home and slept a lot to ‘catch up’ - she was more tired than even she thought. I think emotional and physical recharging the batteries - then had good grade report. Then helped her dad with overnight driving (840 miles after leaving at 1 am after H and I attended a C-mas Party we didn’t want to miss, and we had the car packed up) while DD1 and I slept pretty much the whole trip.
Now DD1 and DD2 are with their cousins, so grandparents and H and I have quiet, catch up.
DD1 and DD2 both have apts with school, and we consider our home as their visiting place. DD2 will work this summer with an internship, so she will have 8 am reporting to work M - F. DD1 graduates after spring term as a nurse, so whatever shift she will get for work…
I do know a mom who had a son that graduated who wasn’t too motivated to looking for a job (watching international soccer at all hours, gaming, etc) so she had to ‘cut off’ all those niceties and he found the motivation and got a job.
It just depends household to household. Parents’ sleep should not be compromised…
I don’t mind it, but I’m someone who stays up late (although in bed), doesn’t sleep well often, and so often rolls out of bed at 9 or 10. I thought my D would have trouble adjusting to college because my kids follow my pattern, but she is up and eager to go much before her roommates, and she doesn’t take naps like others in her dorm seem to do, so this seems to be fine. Teens (including late teen years) require more sleep, anyway.
If D were sleeping late on her break, then just watching TV/on her phone or computer, or just heading out with friends, that would annoy me, too. However, she’s eagerly involved in family activities and conversations, so it’s all good. I think she’s just catching up after working so hard and lacking sleep this semester.
I do have a child who sleeps late and then has been sitting around on his phone more than I think is healthy. I’m going to put the kibosh on that.
Everyone in our family is a night owl–if we could, we’d probably stay up all night and sleep all day! It’s just an inborn predilection that one can’t change. So when my kids take the opportunity to stay up late and sleep in because they have no work or classes, I completely understand and leave them alone. “Early to bed and early to rise” is just an opinion, not a moral imperative.
As long as my college-aged child is productive while awake, I don’t mind the “sleep until noon” thing. Right now, she’s on break, so I’m giving her a little break. Now, I get annoyed when the 12-year-old stays up late because he is awful to wake up in the morning.
Ha ha I posted this same question last year “Does anyone else have a college kid sleeping through Christmas vacation?” Basically I just let it ride, she went back to school and I forgot all about it…
MommaJ, Yes!
S is still asleep. His family is up and going strong. If his wife does not care then I do not. Only thing is I will not keep the house quiet once it is late.
But I love to stay up and sleep late.
The latest research finds that night owls are more creative than early birds. Early birds succeed in other areas.
In BBC Health about 4-5 months ago.
Ultimately, it does not matter which you are as long as it works.
I found the very late sleeping (2-4 in the afternoon) unacceptable during summer breaks and put my foot down.
And it worked, he got a job. Probably better than Mom storming into your room and throwing the blinds open screaming at you
