I get it - it’s hard - but remind him that careers are long. Life is a marathon and not a sprint.
There was never an assurance he’d get a top 10. At the same time, there’s no assurance he still won’t.
But imagine if you needed to borrow $50K a year, $200K to send him. I don’t know your finances. That might be $2500 a month. I’m just making up loan amounts - but budget is always first.
So you have to manage that up front. And the UCs aren’t necessarily budget beating but it depends.
The UCs don’t take tests and have essays. I would not classify UCSB as a safety. Maybe Riverside, Merced, and Santa Cruz - but not UCSB.
It’s hard to understand at 17 - but he will make his success in life, not his school name. And he needs to visit schools and find campus environments he would enjoy. Many kids, mine included, visited schools - and that changed their opinion. My son was all set to attend Purdue engineering, until friends dragged him to Alabama and it was game over. He just loved the modern, clean feel and solo dorm room that Honors students get.
You mentioned Cal Tech - I’m assume he hasn’t visited and studied what type of school it is. It’s nothing - really like - any other university.
Once you are there, the name is irrelevant - you have to live for four years.
So it might be time to have that chat with him about becoming a grown up and making wise choices, not just ego ones.
You need to retire one day, etc. and he doesn’t need to owe $500 or $1000 or $2000, etc. a month for 10 years - because what if he can’t pay it. I don’t know how much you’d need to borrow but if it’s more than the federal limits, you’ll be on the hook.
This example is just that - to make a point - not to recommend the school. Did you know more than 1100 Californians are at Alabama. I’m guessing most are very high stat - that’s why they go - high merit $$. if they are strong students They attract 1500 from Illiniois, 2K from NY/NJ/CT. The point - there’s top kids everywhere - literally - so your son isn’t being short changed if he ends up at an Arizona State (top Honors college) or Oregon State (lots of top college kids here had it as their back up and loved it) - or a UCR. If he’s at CSUN, Arizona or UCR, he’s not going to be the top kid. There will be kids more accomplished. But his hard work will deliver him a top notch affordable education at many thousands cheaper than others due to his academic accomplishments - if these type schools are his back up.
Your student can succeed from anywhere - if you can make it through engineering, you’re top notch. It’s not an easy major with a 50% drop rate nationwide.
But he should find the right place and again, no one here is an adcom. Put up your list - but if you go tooo reach heavy, he’ll need to be prepared for rejection.
His hard work is never wasted. If he’s got great study habits, those will be needed at the next level - whether Harvard or Hofstra. He will be challenged in school whether CSUN or Yale.
So it’s a mind set thing - but as I noted earlier, my SEC kid found out he was making more than the Ivy kid at the next company - so - he will be fine if he hustles and takes advantage of the offerings at whatever the college he attends offers.
Purdue is a low cost, top school - so may be another to consider. If he gets that 1500 SAT, I think it would be likely. You don’t get a specific engineering major the first year but rather after.
Good luck to your son - but please manage his expectations.
btw - another big name that doesn’t take an SAT into account (if he doesn’t do well) - would be U Wash.
Good luck.