One other thought: I guess I felt that the relationship with kids and honoring their autonomy (even if possibly making mistakes) was the most important thing. (As long as we could afford their choices.)
That applied to college decisions as well as high school course decisions.
Of course if they sought my opinion, I was glad to offer it!
Sounds like you are a sensitive parent trying to balance that autonomy with worries about long term outcome, so maybe shorten it to focusing on short term!