<p>My DS has been away for a month ans we have our routine down. I text him every evening to see how his day was. He always responds within 30 min. That is much easier than calling. Everytime I call, he is doing something. </p>
<p>I am so excited that he is coming home this weekend for his High School homecoming. It will be nice to really talk to him over a home cooked dinner.</p>
<p>Today I went to lunch with a good friend who just dropped her freshman daughter off yesterday (school is on the quarter system, so starts much later). Mom friend nervous about the changes, and was quizzing “expert” me (after all, my d’s been gone a month 
about college life, including texting/contact (she’s worried she will bother her daughter…) This afternoon, kiddo texted me to ask how my day went. She is very good buddies with the daughter referenced above. I told her about my lunch, about how friend is trying to navigate this newness. Her response, verbatim from her text to me: “I think we have a sane level of text/call communication. Did you discuss the intricacies [of conversing with your college kid] with her? Basically, don’t expect immediate responses and know that if you call she might be in class.” Did my heart good.</p>
<p>Just dropped of my S yesterday (they are also on quarter system). I am trying hard not to text or call, and wait for him to make the first call/text home. I know that he is really relishing his independence, so it might be awhile! </p>
<p>Before we left, we did discuss that we would hope to get responses fairly quickly (ie, within the day) from a text to him, but we shall see!</p>
Hi if you don’t mind me asking how did it all work out? For some reason your post touched me the most. You adult child seemed most like mine. I dropped mine off about two weeks ago. Last of three and sixteen years difference between her and the next oldest one, not our fault we tried but three died in between. We were so close but I’ve gotten one call. She like yours met up with roommates so far so good but because of all that is happening today I worry. By this time your adult child should have graduated. If you don’t mind me asking how often did she call the first year and how often did you contact her? Personal experiences would be greatly appreciated, this empty nest is pretty lonely about now (Smile) Thank you so much.
Geez…i just realized this thread is five years old! Nevermind!
Oh “EllieMom” I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Since this is a public post I won’t ask you to tell what
happened, just want to say my prayers are with you and your family, I am so sorry to hear that, may the Lord bring
you strength and comfort you. Thank you so much for the response. It shows me not to take things personally, sounds like my child and yours is just doing what we prepared them all their lives to do, and that is to be independent. God bless you and your family and if you know anyone else who would love to tell their story on how often their adult child contacted them and how it went the first year I would love to hear it, if they have the time. I’ve asked a few people I’ve run into and they didn’t want to talk about it. They said the adult child went off and that they could strangle them. God bless you, thank you for sharing, I feel a lot better and God bless!