When my kids were looking for jobs, my husband mentioned it to every single patient of his who was in some kind of field related to what they wanted to do. They both got leads that way. What’s wrong with that?
Not a thing @Pizzagirl , not a thing . Pretty smart if you ask me.
Do people think helping your child with contacts you know to network for a job is over-parenting? I don’t
While a graduate assistant years ago, I had an angry parent call asking why his DD received a failing grade in the class I taught. He provided the name and I checked attendance. D had been to class 4 times during the semester. The parent apparently did not have all the information.
And please don’t go there re: graduate assistants doing the teaching. It was a class that was similar to one most students had in middle or high school. General requirement.
I want my kids to learn how to network and not me. Hopefully they turn out better than my husband and I, in the networking part anyway.
People often talk about wealthy get wealthier. The reason they get wealthier is because they pass on their wealth to their children, and their children have more capital to invest, they do not need to borrow to start a business. I don’t have that kind of money to pass on to my kids, but I do have a lot of work and life experience to pass on to my kids. Why shouldn’t my kids benefit from it? Why should they do everything from ground zero?
Recently D1 was thinking about buying an apartment. She was trying to do it on her own, but she was not familiar with a lot of terms and many realtors also didn’t want to give her the time of day (a 26 year old buying a NYC apartment). On the other hand I have bought and sold many real estate in my life time. So she asked for my help. Yes, she probably could eventually figure it out by herself, after possibly lose some money, or she could leverage off my experience.
@oldfort You advised your daughter and assisted her. You did not go out and buy the apartment on her behalf. big difference.
Well, we bought our son a car for college graduation. H did the negotiation; S was there alongside him, but we weren’t about to hand him $xx,xxx and say “get your best deal” when we have far more negotiating power at the dealership with past and future purchases. We had S “pay” for it so it goes on his record, and then we paid him back.
There are no more negotiations for cars, only online haggling now. I bought my car far lower than other would have paid because I spent about two months researching things online. I wore the online salesmen out. LOL
In some area, it is hard to find internship opportunity if there is not parental connections.
Haha. My daughter referred to those kids who got internships through parents network as nepotism, for this area anyway.
It is, but sadly it is how the system works.
I’m not sure if it works. But my kid had to ask me to critique his resume, she is friend and wanted to help, and he finally got a real internship.
There is no shame to utilizing connections of parents and their friends to find job connections. It is still good networking in my book, especially if said parents/friends have insights/connections to their intended field of work. Yes, some kids will be more advantaged than others due to family connections, but that is life in the big city.
Unfortunately, if my S continues on his projected course, I will not be able to help him much in his field, but I will certainly try if the opportunity presents itself.
Utilizing family connections for business is as old as time in virtually every culture in history.
Just curious, did any of the commenters read the article?
^^ I read it. Back in my black hat helicopter days, I once saw the principal of the middle school hide in the boy’s bathroom when she saw me coming.
I read it.
And, @MotherOfDragons, lol. ^
I also appreciate your honesty in sharing your story with us.
I read it twice.
MotherofDragons, haha I got you beaten. I got a high school teacher fired without my kid ever set foot there. I called the principal the year before my kid was supposed to attend that high school. I did complained about said teacher because of the rumor Ive heard about him through friend of my daughter. But we moved and her friend said the teacher either left or fired.