I guess we’ll find out tomorrow. Let us know.
Don’t call us, we’ll call you
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I would have texted them 'We have a tee time Sun at 10:10. Would you like to play? Please let me know by Sat noon."
Or ask the organizer of the couples program if there are any other couples looking for a match up.
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Linear literal people are just that. He must also be a rules person, I guess? But wives are almost always right. Hasn’t he learned that by now? 
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I agree with you. It was a noncommittal comment,
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He’s a HUGE rules person HUGE! With a capital H
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Update
My husband went to the clubhouse because he didn’t want to look bad. He didn’t think the other couple would show up but if they did, we honored what the wife said. 
I went for a walk in the morning and said that if the other couple came, call and I’ll play. We live on the golf course so it’s a short commute.
Not only did the other couple not show up, no one did. Because it was canceled. Of course there was no information about that. It’s not a surprise.
My husband has a tee time for 6pm. I’ll enjoy the quiet house
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That’s really bad that there was no notification of cancellation.
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Probably a bit late for you to teach DH to pick battles, but for me, the lack if communication from the club is more of an issue.
We are used to the dysfunctional golf course management.
Since we live on the course, we put up with it because of the convenience.
It’s not ideal but we’ve become accustomed to it.
Small update for this situation.
Yesterday this couple stopped by and said that they would like to play today. Except that their daughter is graduating high school today. They think they will be back from the graduation in time. But if they aren’t, they will let us know.
Apparently we need to sit around all day for a maybe we can play if everything goes right.
The very annoying part is that another friend asked us to play, we had to say no because of this maybe. And we have to wait until 3pm to know if they are available.
I wish we had been more quick in our response. We were a bit dumbfounded. I knew there was graduation so I thought they were apologizing for not being available again.
I’d really like to opt out of this arrangement. Sigh
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Can you not opt out of this arrangement? Because dh wants to hold out?
I know! I’m hoping we can figure a way out of this!
Because my husband and I are both frustrated with this situation.
I think even my husband is over it. We definitely aren’t going to ask them.
We were both so unprepared when they showed up to our house.
Turn them down every time. Say that just doesn’t work for us, so sorry. Then make your own plans. They’ll get the message, or they won’t, but you’ll be free for others.
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That’s the line we should have used. Just wasn’t quick on our feet when they stopped by. That’s why I like text, because it would have given us time to formulate an answer.
We have legitimate plans coming up so I’m hoping this dies out when we return because we won’t be reaching out.
The problem with sneaking out is that we live on the golf course and so do they. Unless we wanted to give up golfing, it’s hard to sneak because everyone see you out there. It’s a small price to pay to golf right out your door
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Before my kids got old enough to recognize the subtle dig, I’d tell them (within earshot of my husband) - “Mom is always right. Dad is often right too.”
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That is so odd that they stopped by with a “maybe” proposition.
If it works out to play with them one more time I say go for it and see if the 4 of you gel any better. And if not, maybe you’ll both realize it or you and your H can take the reins and find a good reason to just opt out.
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When it comes to my calendar, I never write in pen what the other party has in pencil.
Either I respond to vague stuff like this with my own vague, “Sure, if we’re around. Hit me up when we get closer and let’s see.” Then I go about my business and if I happen to be sitting around the house bored when they call then cool, let’s go.
Or I just push it out with “Let’s wait until our calendars line up better.”
I’m a bit of a hard*ss when it comes my free time. I truly, deeply value my free time even if I’m only sitting on the couch reading CC. I try never to put myself in the position of my calendar being at someone else’s whim.
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Well…did they show up?
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