You were caught off guard. You’ll be ready next time! If there is a next time … (Don Pardo, anyone?)
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I would stop expending any energy thinking about these people.
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The good thing that has come out of these exchanges is that now you and H know who you’re interacting with. Seems like they do what suits them in the moment and fail to consider others’ perspectives. I appreciate it when people ‘show you who they are’ and have gotten better at ‘believing them.’ Next time you’re forewarned; I would have been caught off-guard by this proposition; a one way commitment…
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My husband reminded me that he did say that maybe this week wasn’t the best and why don’t we do it when you know you’ll be around.
They said no, we really want to play tomorrow and think we will be able to.
No call, no text. No nothing.
Husband and I went out at 3:20
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Omg who does that?! They must be “me, me, me” people!
Not nice.
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That’s exactly what my husband said.
So…they didn’t show again…
Unbelievable isn’t it?
I’m surprised they even contemplated an activity on same day as daughter’s graduation. Perhaps they gave the Maybe to try to sound encouraging about the relationship. But it really was inconsiderate.
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I don’t think they have any plans for a relationship or friendship with us.
I think they wanted to play golf in this couples group and needed another couple.
And yes, it feels incredibly selfish to want to do a couples activity on your daughter’s graduation day.
SMH
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That is really odd behavior by that couple! Glad you won’t waste any more time with them.
I feel like my friends and I keep learning about relationships - no matter what age.
For instance, I’ve decided to no longer ask a certain friend for lunch or coffee (we work in same building and have known each other for over 20 years). I’d always initiate and she always joined. But never suggested herself that we get together. So we haven’t met up in almost a year. Turns out I am fine with that that…! 
My motto lately: when people show you who they are, believe them. (credit Maya Angelou)
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There was someone I knew when I worked abroad. After we came back she asked me if I wanted to get together for dinner on a specific date. She was at a consulting firm and I could have been a potential client. Not one for getting together with people often, I said yes more as a favor. Never heard back from her. A bit later, she contacted me again about hosting me at a major sports event at her firm’s vip tent. I was actually excited because it was the only sport I enjoyed and blocked the date. Again, the day came and went without hearing from her. Few weeks ago she contacted me again about getting together. No response from me.
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So….they’re not the sort of people you’d really want to be friends with. Therefore, stop trying so hard with them.
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