<p>I’m an undergrad student enrolled in a dual degree program that takes less than 20 kids a year and for the few semesters I’ve been here, I’ve been feeling like I don’t belong in the program or even at either school. It feels like everyone else is either really smart or really creative or really hardworking, and while I’m not dumb, none of my work is original and I don’t think I’ve developed the study skills I needed in high school because high school was easy and I always tested well, or used to test well, until now. I don’t know how to motivate myself to work harder as I notice myself always giving up or becoming apathetic/resigned whenever I don’t understand something/do a bad job on a project and I’ve been floundering at both schools. I’ve been looking forward to going to college all through high school but now all I want to do is drop out and pick up some job that doesn’t require thinking. I feel like my main problem is not having enough self-confidence and not having the grit to work through tough times, but before this problem is fixed, I feel like I’m just wasting my time and my family’s money here and I don’t know what to do. How can I build grit and resilience if I’m stuck in this state of doubt and resignation? Or am I just self-pitying excessively and need to snap out of it and get a grip?</p>
<p>I am not a college student yet. I can’t answer this but I advise you to post this on the Parents forum too. Hope you come out of this situation. Good Luck!:)</p>
<p>Things you should do:</p>
<p>-take a deep breath and hold it for ten seconds
-talk to each of your pr</p>
<p>Whoops, wrong button.</p>
<p>-talk to each of your professors about the difficulties you are having, they are happy to help
-study with classmates in groups
-read your textbooks
-spend less time on the internet/phone/tv
-get enough sleep
-maybe take one less class next semester
-get involved with undergraduate research, it’s fun and builds confidence
-look into tutoring, your school likely offers free tutoring</p>