<p>This boy and I share a lot in common, we’re good friends, but for some reason, I don’t feel a romantic spark between us. We’re so close that everyone thinks we should be together (in fact, many people think we already are together), and I’m flattered that he’s seeing me in a romantic light because he could totally be with someone else right now. I feel really lucky but at the same time confused that I’m not feeling anything towards him. I’m actually not sure how exactly he feels about me either… I sometimes think he’s romantically interested in me and sometimes think he’s just being friendly, but a lot of people confirm that his interest is beyond just the friendship level. There are definitely moments when I question how really I feel… for example, I got upset this one time when some (drunk) guy put his arm around him and kissed him on the neck. On a different occasion, I got up when someone started fondling me (even though I liked it) because I felt like I was cheating on him even though the status of our relationship was ambiguous. We connect on a deeper level. Our intellectual conversations are very natural-flowing and our interests compatible. And yet, there’s just no spark. I’m really confused because I want to like him in that way, but there’s another person with whom I share mutual romantic interest and a spark. While I get sexually aroused by them both, I don’t feel that my connection is as strong with the second person despite the “spark” being there. It makes no sense, but this is the situation I find myself in. Do couples normally have a spark before deciding to date each other? Is it still possible to create this “spark”?</p>
<p>lol…i cant stop laughing…</p>
<p>nice one 'tisthetruth</p>
<p>make sure they share your orientation. if they do, well, ask the one you feel sparks with out! the other one is just a friend.</p>
<p>physcially fight him</p>
<p>Just give him what every guy wants.</p>
<p>which is simply a fight</p>
<p>Why would I ever want to fight a boy I care deeply about? That makes no sense.</p>
<p>I don’t understand what’s funny… I guess I don’t understand because I’m not one to find happiness in the pain of others.</p>
<p>come on stupid! guys don’t want a fight with girls! they want something that is more obvious.</p>
<p>this is funny, just not from your point of view</p>
<p>lol, i didnt even realize he was a guy until i saw his profile on the side, lol im laughing so much, is this a joke? sorry if it isnt but its just…so funny!
rofl</p>
<p>Two guys and nothings happened so far? Props to you for not whipping it out already.</p>
<p>attraction isn’t a choice it just happens</p>
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<p>i was not laughing b/c he was a guy. a post that was probably deleted said simply “put out”. i couldnt stop laughing b/c i read tisthetruth’s post and it sounded really sincere and then i read the first reply and it just said “put out”. it was funny after such a lengthy and genuine post.</p>
<p>maybe this kind of posts belongs in a different kind of forum :)</p>
<p>I don’t understand what is so funny, either. Homosexuality exists. Deal with it. I am assuming the OP knows better than we do whether his two interests are bent the same way.</p>
<p>its funny b/c to me it sounds FAKE, but thats just me. i’m not laughing about the homosexuality part i just found it funny b/c i was like “oh a love story between a guy and a girl, hmmm looks like this girls in love…wait a sec…(looks to the left) hahahahahaha ohhhh okkk!” and statements like “started fondling me (even though I liked it)” and then some that make me feel like its just a joke</p>
<p>What the hell? Its a guy? I thought for sure it was a girl too. With the fondling and the other stuff I just assumed it was a girl. </p>
<p>Now it makes sense. I was wondering why you got angry because a guy kissed him on his neck. I was thinking, why are you angry, shouldn’t he be ****ed I know I would be if some random guy just came and kissed me.</p>
<p>It makes sense now that I know that your gay.</p>
<p>This just makes it funnier though. And this isn’t really the place to ask as most people here seem to fly a very straight arrow.</p>
<p>I’m not sure you can force chemistry when it’s not there in the first place. It sounds to me like you just have a great friend in him and nothing more…at least for right now. Maybe if you just give it time and try not to think about it so much something more will come of it naturally?</p>
<p>I don’t understand why this is funny AT ALL. Maybe because I already knew that 'tisthetruth was a gay male? (Even if I didn’t know, this isn’t funny. Maybe if sauronvoldemort posted it, it would’ve been.)</p>
<p>I agree with katho11’s post.</p>