Is there an Alateen group in your area? They are not just for children of alcoholics (though your mother may be one). That can be helpful for children of any dysfunctional parent.
I agree with the above about seeing your therapist ASAP. Then my added suggestions are wondering if there’s a teacher at school you relate to a bit. If so, many of us love listening and perhaps could help by just hearing you vent. It helps more than you might think.
Then, if you have free time for a couple of hours and access to it, many folks of all ages who had less than stellar upbringings enjoy Secondhand Lions (movie). If you haven’t seen it and have a source, give it a try. Be sure to watch until the very end. The Glass Castle is a good read too (movie wasn’t bad), but it doesn’t align with your situation as much as Secondhand Lions does. Either can provide some positive thoughts for being able to succeed in spite of what you’re dealing with in life. Positive examples - even in film or books - help our brains process ideas from those who have BTDT.
People can and do get over things to lead successful lives themselves. It’s worth it to put the time in to give your brain and body a chance to overcome obstacles.
@cavsfan2003: I’d also like to mention the title of this thread. You don’t necessaily “get over” this – certainly not in the short term. This is a Big Deal, to you and your family, and it’s likely to have an impact on you for a while. Don’t think you have to “bounce back” by the end of the week.
@cavsfan2003: How are you doing?
@VeryHappy I’m okay. Been trying to distract myself. Had a bowling match tonight which was a nice way to distract myself- we won, which was nice.
I met with my therapist yesterday and had a cry session. I’m seeing him tomorrow, too, so that’s nice. I’m more numb than anything right now. Thank you for asking.
Glad you are seeing your therapist and keeping busy. I’m sure it’s a very challenging time. Stay around people who care about you!
I’m very glad to hear that. You may not be able to change the facts of the situation, but you can change the way you respond to it.
(And FYI – when we click on the “Helpful” button, it’s a substitute for the “Hugs” button that we lack.)
Alright I’m gonna need my therapist even more. Jesus.
Okay so I left for Connecticut Wednesday to tour some boarding schools. My uncle called my dad, super serious conversation, my dad didn’t tell me what happened. Oh well. Vacation was great, had a great time, saw Yale, the Atlantic, and my boarding schools.
So we’re on our way back. Right now, actually. I’m in the car. So we’re in like New York and my dad tells me my mom had court Wednesday and decided to run. He didn’t have any other details except they issued a warrant for her arrest.
We get to Ohio. About an hour ago. My uncle calls with the details. Long story short, the police found my mom, they chased her, she jumped out of a second storey window. She broke her T10 and T12 vertebrae and is in a medically induced coma. She will be paralyzed from the waist down.
I have never been so angry and sad in my life. Betrayed. Just wanted to give an update. I have another meeting with my counselor on Tuesday. Big woof. At least I have essays to distract myself with.
((CavsFan))
^ Ditto those hugs ((Cavs))
This is so hard on you. Is there a friend or friend’s mom to just spend some time with, a female adult you trust? With all the maturity it takes to deal with this, you could use a safe space where you can be yourself, just be a teen. The bowling was a good idea.
Tough circumstances and tragedies do take time. Slowly, your balance comes back. Try to remember you’re just a kid. We’re pulling for you.
I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Nothing that has happened to your mother is your fault, nor could you have prevented it. She is ill. She didn’t do this to you, or for you, or because of you. She has a sickness that just happens, like cancer.
Please look up the NAMI chapter in your area. They have support for families and children of people with mental illness. They will help you find a new way to look at this. You are not alone in having a parent with mental illness.
Know that many folks care about you and are rooting for you. You are NOT responsible for your mom’s mental health and bad choices. Take good care of yourself and work with your therapist to get through all of this.
Thank you, everyone, for the kind words. I will try and find a NAMI chapter. Sadly I don’t really have any adult women in my life except for my dad’s girlfriend who is wonderful and knows the situation, but she’s the only one. I’m trying my best to chill out but it’s hard. I appreciate you all
I’m glad you are smart enough to recognize what your mom is doing as seriously wrong. This means you’re in good shape to break the cycle - to let your kids have a parent who’s different.
You’re on a good track and I wish you all the best. It’s not easy because thoughts of “what should have been” aren’t easy to get rid of, but you never picked your parents nor are you responsible for their choices. You can still love your mom for who she is. You don’t need to cut her totally out of your life. You just have to realize the path you are choosing for yourself is different and seize all the help you can get from others to continue on that path.
When you have kids, they’ll thank you for it someday.
Thank you, @Creekland 
I am cutting her out of my life, though. My dad told me I really need to. She has done nothing but hurt me for a year. I just need a break. I will break the cycle, for my family’s sake.
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Please post here whenever you need to or want to or just have something to update. We are a wonderful group of parents who care.
It sounds like your dad and your uncle understand the situation and have your best interest at heart. Lean on them when you need to.
I will, definitely. Thank you, and thank you to all of you wonderful parents. Your kids are lucky 
@VeryHappy
@CavsFan2003 There are no perfect families…not even close. There isn’t a parent alive who hasn’t done something or said something crappy to their kids that they regret.
But, you are absolutely right…some people just get lucky while others are dealt a very challenging hand. I am so sorry your life has been so much affected by your mom’s issues. That is just so unfair to you and you surely did not deserve any of it.
I have a lot of students, and a husband, who survived toxic parents and are now thriving as adults. I absolutely KNOW you can overcome your trauma and create a life that is both joyful and (relatively) drama free. Stick with the counselor–even for awhile after you don’t think you need it anymore. It is REALLY important that you also focus a LOT on taking care of your physical health too. I really encourage you to put extra effort into avoiding any addictive substances. Kids with your kind of stress are at a huge risk of developing an addiction. It’s important that you arm yourself with that awareness, because you can’t even risk it.
@scubasue I am terrified of developing a chemical addiction- my entire family is full of alcoholics and I’ve seen what it does to people. I will stay away from that sort of stuff
Thank you for the kind comment. My therapist told me that I will be a stronger adult because of the challenges I’ve gone through. Let’s hope he’s right.