<p>I agree with the stated advice of letting nature take its course but I also think that you are more than allowed at the right moment to initiate a gentle discussion of your concerns. At that point I would leave it be.</p>
<p>The boyfriend/girlfriend stuff seems to only get more complicated as they get older. My daughter is soon to leave the UK after two years in a grad program at Oxford and will also be leaving a serious boyfriend. She begins med school in the US this August. He has an excellent job in the UK and in this economy would be nuts to leave it. They have decided to try and make it work long distance. The boyfriend does hope to come to the US in a year for graduate school but that is up in the air. I really like him and think that he and my D function as a couple extremely well but I don’t think there are even stats out there regarding transcontinental relationships and their success rate because the number of couples trying to do this are so few. </p>
<p>I have done a reasonably good job of keeping my mouth shut because this relationship will fizzle or not without my two cents. As she was waiting to hear from med schools I did offer up my thoughts as to the difference between compromise and sacrifice when in a relationship. I knew that part of her decision process (depending where/if she got in) would include where it would be easiest for the boyfriend to fly in on the occasions he made it to the US. </p>
<p>After watching a kid work toward something for so long it would have been worrying to see her choose a medical school because of the possibility of keeping a relationship alive. That being said, I would not have told her to behave any differently. I did encourage her to think about it. It turns out that she was accepted to a school she views as an excellent fit also located near a number of major airports so for now it is all good.</p>
<p>We all know how this will probably end up but I hope that they pull it off. It would be one for the books.</p>