The OP used " ur" in post #27 in a way that makes me question the validity of this whole thing. Screams to me as a highschooler yanking our chains.
OP, reread your post.
Then reread the responses.
No, I wouldn’t like someone telling me that I was was bullying my kids, but if I wrote what you wrote, I would expect and deserve it. Punishing my children because they didn’t get 100% on a math test? Extreme and silly. As a person who worked in the local high school for 10 years, I would approach it this way: "WHere do you think your weakness was? Let’s work on that, and let’s talk to your teacher about how you problem-solved.
Getting angry and annoyed at your child, only makes the situation worse and does lead to, if not mental health issues, then deep resentment.
. Not true. Colleges tend to accept students who aren’t robots and know that no one is “perfect”; they will forgive a grade. That’s according to my husband’s alma mater: Stanford.
Punish your child for crashing a car, going drinking, arguing with a teacher, staying out past curfew, getting American tattooed. A number of parents are going through this and would be happy to have a dedicated child score well, and spend her summer trying to get into a major that they don’t like.
Punishing your child for being overweight and not getting 100% on a math test, speaks volumes.
@twoinanddone I’m sorry but why would making her pay at least some of the $2000 be a bad idea? she knows she’s wasted money so i dont see why she couldn’t pay…
also there seems to be a consenus my daughter has no activities, is emotionally broken and really quiet from all of my “abuse”… not true. in fact, she is far too loud and needs to learn how to be quieter
Closing thread. The OP only wants to argue with and ignore the vast majority of advice, saying it doesn’t apply. Well, then, either you must not have described the situation accurately or you really just want someone to tell you something you want to hear. Either way this is useless.