<p>You know what, Sseamom? You’re absolutely right. I misspoke and I apologize for that. I should know better because I’ve known loved ones who have benefited from talking things out with a helpful, impartial third party, like a therapist.</p>
<p>I guess I was seeing some responses as being more along the lines of “You both sound seriously messed up and need professional help asap!”. To me, the OP and daughter sound well within the realm of “normal” but with some skills needed to be learned. Since the OP is so aware of the situation, she can probably work through this without professional help.</p>
<p>But far be it for me to discourage seeking the advice of an “outsider”. After all, that’s why I come here every day!</p>