<p>Op - you had said your d wouldn’t even make a decision about what to order and you would make it for her.</p>
<p>The obvious question to ask yourself is - you know, of course, that you could have closed your mouth and said - take your time, honey, we will wait - and refuse to choose for her. Why didn’t you do that? What feelings does that stir up in you that you tamp down by making the decision vs forcing her to?</p>