<p>It saddens me that I can visualize it in my head perfectly.</p>
<p>Son, </p>
<p>I have only one thing to say:</p>
<p>Please practice safe sex. </p>
<p>Most sincerely, </p>
<p>THL</p>
<p>Chastity belts work.</p>
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<p>But they are quite. . .unwieldy. </p>
<p>You could go the extra mile, and voluntarily become sterile. . .</p>
<p>Sterility doesn’t improve studying.</p>
<p>^
Castration is the only option at this point then.</p>
<p>I made a commitment to be totally single for a year in college to focus all my attention on school, etc., and it’s really not all that difficult. You can still be friends with members of the opposite sex without dating them. Just be sure to let them know if it’s obvious that they’re hitting on/interested in you.</p>
<p>Wow, first world problems lol…</p>
<p>Joking aside, it’s not like girls are going to throw themselves on you when you show up in the dining hall in sweats and a hoodie. The only time I saw that happen was when Joseph Gordon-Levitt showed up at my school, and girls pretty much prostrated themselves in his wake.</p>
<p>If you’re as attractive as JGL (at least according to my female friends), then you will have some serious attention when you show up in college, lol.</p>
<p>Otherwise, if the ladies are interested in you and don’t get the memo, just straight up tell them that you’re not looking for a relationship right now, as someone else said.</p>
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<p>There is an obvious solution that all of you are missing…find girls who are also interested in academics first and foremost! You are not the only good looking, sociable, smart and motivated student on campus who has a scholarship to maintain.</p>
<p>Go to the library together…study (at separate tables or carrels if you prefer). Afterwards, grab a bite to eat/stream a movie, whatever.</p>
<p>There is plenty of time for academics and a social life.</p>
<p>Ok, so I’m just curious; do a lot of guys feel this way? I mean are u rlly going to avoid us because u don’t want a relationship?? I’m not sure I follow the logic… 
We really aren’t all that bad, I promise!! Some of us understand when you put US in the “friend zone”. Ya know? We did invent it… ;)</p>
<p>^^^ Of course not all guys are like this. Just some are very career-orientated.</p>
<p>Bound4aCollege: Are you reading the other posts? It’s pretty much the OP against the world (unfortunately for him :().</p>
<p>Why would someone willingly submit themselves though to be against the world? I’m just not really following the logic… I am reading the other posts, it’s just where I come from, (America), its a natural thing for guys and girls to hook up. When did it become something to avoid? I guess I understand that he wants to focus on school, but like someone said earlier, why can’t he just find girls that are also studious? Why does it have to be him against the world/girls?? I don’t know, I just think that either I’m missing something in his logic, or he’s missing something in college… ;)</p>
<p>Girls can be very distracting, especially the one’s who you just can’t stop staring at every time they pass by you. Before I entered community college[will transfer soon], I told myself I will be very serious with my work and forget about girls. First day of a summer program I was in this past July, I was already drooling over some girl on the same floor as me[in my head lol]. I at least kept my word that I wouldn’t really ask any girl out, but I admit she really distracted me, I found her so attractive.</p>
<p>But yeah, don’t fight it, it’s in our nature. There’s really nothing you can do about it. You can go in with the best attitude towards your education, it just takes one girl to get you off your gameplan. You know if you watch sports, not every gameplan is executed the way the team wanted. When that happens, the team/boxer/MMA fighter has to adjust midway and figure out a new strategy. That’s what you’re gonna have to do, maybe just fit the girl some where in your schedule somehow.</p>
<p>@Bound4aCollege: It’s something to avoid (dating, not women) when you realize that a few month fling is worth far less than getting your education paid for. Dating someone studious can lead to the downfall of one or both parties, if they aren’t ready to handle a relationship and college at the same time; being studious doesn’t make them exempt from the distractions of relationships. I meant that the OP is against the world in the sense that almost everyone in this thread is picking on him for putting his education first, and dating a distant second – in other words, almost everyone except the OP is agreeing with you, so I’m not sure why you’re complaining about one individual who is worried about his academic success.</p>
<p>Girls are very distracting. I remember when my best friend entered college and he was super attracted to this girl he met in one of his classes. However, he only had enough money to pay for one year of college. He needed to get scholarships, so he dedicated himself entirely to studying that first year, got the grades, and he got all the scholarships he wanted to pay for his school. Unfortunately, the girl he liked and stared at for the longest time before diverting his eyes back to the books met a classmate of his and got married at the end of freshman year. I think they’re getting a divorce soon.</p>
<p>So, I can understand if you’re concerned about paying for college. I would do the exact same thing my best friend did. Neither of us were part of this “hook up” culture, though. Both of us fortunately have found marriage material girls. I think we’re the minority. If I had to do it all over again, I probably wouldn’t go into college in a relationship so I could focus more. Then again, it’s not really a regret of mine that I’ve ended up the way that I did. </p>
<p>I know my favorite physics professor would sometimes go off on tangents during lectures. He talked about his days at UCLA as an undergrad and that he was in a fraternity partying, drinking, and chasing skirts. He said it was the biggest mistake of his life and that he was barely able to save himself to get into a respectable graduate school. The guy is a genius and one of the nicest people I’ve ever met. He absolutely recommended us to stay in the books if we wanted to get into a good graduate school if we were planning on going to graduate school for physics. Although I can’t completely take him seriously as I’ve had a girlfriend for four years now, I’m definitely focusing on school to get where I want.</p>
<p>My roommate had a serious boyfriend for three of her four years and she graduated with a 3.8 in biochem.</p>
<p>I kind of have the same problem as you do. Thing is what I have in mind is… nothing. I have no specific plans regarding this, but I have committed to my parents (of course) that I will stay away from 'hook-up’s and dating (it’s against our religion). But what I commit to my parents isn’t what I necessarily do… lol. </p>
<p>Hmm… I think if an opportunity throws itself at me I wouldn’t really waste it… but I wouldn’t get into a relationship either. Although, sadly, my university is known for “raider rash”, and that SUCKS. That just adds to my sticking to the “commitment” I made… but I don’t know how long I will survive. </p>
<p>Man I’m even jumping to the hard courses in my first year first semester (I got credits). I think the best advice would be what the beginning responses said: balance. But you gotta balance it just right. OH I think sticking to a schedule would be a good idea too, because that way you know you’re on track! Yup that’s the solution, I’m gonna make a schedule and follow it, and you do the same. When the chick throws herself at you, you’ll know whether your schedule allows it.</p>
<p>I think y’all are making some false dilemmas here. It’s like your options are to either do well in school or have a successful relationship. Believe it or not you can do both of them. Hell there are people doing things that are way more time-consuming and way more stressful than any of us are who still have healthy relationships and marriages.</p>