<p>oldfort, Economics, from a top 12 university. Problem is that he has high (unrealistic?) hopes. Even though he has interned at the tippy-top financial institutions, they may not be hiring, especially without connections.</p>
<p>RVM and others, I’m in the same boat. D will acknowledge how stressed she is about finding a job (graduates in May) and has shared that she’s applied for a few things but doesn’t want to talk about it any further – definitely get the ‘in the dark’ feeling and, if I bring it up, she gets…distant–one word answers, etc. We do have some connections that could help her but she doesn’t want any involvement by her dad or me…hard to be in the dark, hard to know she’s stressed and hard to know we can’t help!</p>
<p>Yup. Exactly. I emailed for an update today and rcvd word that he had nothing to tell yet. I wish he would tell me what he is actually doing to find a job! He does not want help, but I am not convinced he knows what he is doing. He feels he will find his job through networking and connections in the field - rather than by responding to ads or applying for posted jobs online. That may be so - but shouldn’t you try every available avenue? I absolutely hate this!</p>
<p>Yes, when they are waiting for the job fairy it’s torture. DS3’s dilemma (getting an offer that he’s not thrilled about while nothing else is pending) is due in large part to the fact that he didn’t figure out early that he really wanted to stay where he is, and/or did nothing to aggressively pursue a job there. So now that the job fairy really did drop a (good) job on his head, he doesn’t have other options. I’m frustrated, and not too sympathetic. </p>
<p>This is one of those times when our parental life experiences could really help - we’ve looked for, interviewed for, and gotten jobs several times. We actually know what works, and have some wisdom to share. Just no takers.</p>
<p>Think it will be just as much fun when they buy their first house?</p>
<p>:-)</p>
<p>NO!
At least not if our DS tries to buy a first, astronomically expensive as they all are, house here in NJ.</p>
<p>I think this is now worse than the college application process. At least then - I knew where he had applied and when we would hear!</p>
<p>Everyone I run into - every friend, neighbor, relative - wants to know - what’s he doing after graduation? I don’t know, I don’t know! Is he coming home? I don’t know! I am steadily going nuts!</p>
<p>rockvillemom, many hugs to you.</p>
<p>I’ve only now, two years post graduation and real job secured, begun to relax and enjoy the fully cooked son. He will still run a few things by me, like a ridiculously intentionally complicated insurance EOB. But mostly, it is the wonderful sound of silence.</p>
<p>The “fully cooked son” - I love this! I just hate this not knowing. I guess I underestimated what the job search process was going to entail. This is so not fun.</p>
<p>Hang in there, rockvillemom. The waiting, the not-knowing, the lack of control really eats away at us. He won’t starve; he won’t be homeless. The worst that happens is that he is jobless when he graduates. </p>
<p>Try to come up with some canned response when people ask about what he’s doing. Sorry, I’m not quite clever enough to come up with a good one for you.</p>
<p>I’m here looking to comiserate as DS waits to hear from a company he spent two days with last week. This has been such a long process. He finished school in May and had a job offer in hand; he had even negotiated a higher salary. The job was not exactly what he wanted and on the wrong side of the country so after much deliberation he let it go. I think he was burned out from a very intense last year in a combined bachelor’s/master’s program and figured he’d take a little break while he looked for something more to his liking. The first job came along easily enough and when he started school in '07 grads of his program were looking at multiple offers.</p>
<p>Nine months later he’s still looking. There have been interviews but his degree is related to the building industry and companies that used to hire in the fall for the following summer have pulled back. Then the sequester tightened things up further. He has been told by companies they would like to hire him but can’t support a full-time position (after he spent the better part of two days in their offices). He’s been told that HR will be in touch to set up an interview and then does not hear from HR nor do they respond to phone messages or emails. It is so disheartening. Fortunately he has been doing some part-time work that is related to his field and is flexible enough that he can travel for interviews. Hope springs eternal . . .</p>
<p>Oh my - that is rough! I really hope it works out for him soon.</p>
<p>I hope your S gets an offer from that company, 1moremom. It sounds like he’s had a frustrating year, but good for him for working part-time and continuing to apply. </p>
<p>RVM, I understand your frustration. It’s very hard to sit back and hope that things will magically work out.</p>
<p>A job offer finally came through. The company looks great. The offer is a little low (he will counter), but four weeks vacation and some moving expenses. Huge sigh of relief. :)</p>
<p>Congrats, 1moremom! Four weeks vacation plus moving expenses is not too shabby.</p>
<p>We’ve just survived a grueling 90-day summer internship hunt with DS1 who’s in B-school. He was actually at home for spring break during what turned out to be the final week of his search and it’s a wonder he didn’t have a nervous breakdown from this process. If I hadn’t lived it with him, I couldn’t have imagined the intensity of it. Single-double-and triple round interviews, each consisting of up to four back-to-back one-hour grillings by various managers-- plus online exams to see you document your reasoning process. </p>
<p>What a drain but with a fantastically happy ending. By last Friday, he had four offers in hand, including the one he truly wanted. We are pinching ourselves that all’s well that ends well including a generous salary, relocation expenses, summer housing and a rental car.</p>
<p>Congrats to you, too; that sounds fabulous. (At our house I was the one headed for the nervous breakdown.)</p>
<p>Congrats to you both. Still waiting here.</p>
<p>Still no word from our D but we will see how things evolve for her. Good to hear the great news of others.</p>
<p>Congrats on the employed kids! </p>
<p>Still waiting here too. On a positive note, S1 is being quite communicative so at least we are aware that resumes are going out. He has a phone interview tomorrow with a company he is excited about but it’s on the other side of the country which makes me a little sad.</p>
<p>Congrats to 1moremom and Worrywart on the offers!</p>
<p>My D got a job! After a three-month intensive search when her first job offer fell through, she accepted a position with a major Silicon Valley computer company yesterday. Three months paid training including room and board, and a helicopter ride under the Golden Gate Bridge! I am so happy for her. I’m especially happy for her since she made the brave decision not to take on additional educational expenses (grad school or law school) but to start out in the working world with a B.A. and a lot of internships and work experience.
She is mostly excited that the company has an on-site pet adoption service, because her first adult action will be to adopt a dog (we still have the cat she adopted in 3rd grade).</p>