<p>An on-site pet adoption service - wow - I have never heard of that! Sounds like a wonderful opportunity, congratulations.</p>
<p>Congrats to those who have offers or jobs. I just finished reading the “unsolicited advice” thread, and wish i had read it before, rather than after, giving my D unsolicited advice about accepting a position. She has to tell them tomorrow, and she is having second thoughts, because her interests have moved in a different direction (but not unrelated to the position). Since her interests are in non-profit, ed, or government type positions, I worry that the sequester may affect this current hiring cycle… and that having some full-time work experience will not hurt her a year or two down the line. Anyway, she was polite, but decidedly non-communicative on this topic. Stating practical concerns makes me sound as if I do not believe in her or her possibilities. Aargh! Well, she can move back in to her bedroom at home and clean it up, if nothing else. Wish she had majored in something more desirable, though she does have a lot of good internship experience.</p>
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<p>This sounds very much like what I am experiencing with my son. He knows exactly what he wants to do and where he wants to do it. Any suggestions that he cast a wider net or use multiple means of job hunting are met with silence and the implication that I have no faith in him. </p>
<p>I have started looking at online job sites in his field, and when I see something that looks like a possibility, I forward it to him. I don’t know that he particularly wants me to do this, but I figure it can’t hurt if I send 1 or 2 a week. I am finding this whole situation to be incredibly frustrating.</p>
<p>Heard a good tip from a business columnist on the radio yesterday. He said that concentrating solely on job aggregator boards like Indeed isn’t sufficient because companies post only a fraction of their openings on boards other than their own. He said to choose your top 10 companies and check out their own career sites religiously, even setting up email alerts directly from those companies. </p>
<p>Hopefully your kids will be receptive to this idea.</p>
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<p>This was also my situation. And I was getting worried about depression as he was spending much of his time in his room, staring at screens, not running. I, too, was emailing listings, usually when my frustration level was particularly high. Ultimately, he learned about the job from a school connection.</p>
<p>He is now busily checking Craigslist for an kitty friendly apartment. (And I am losing my live-in pet sitter.)</p>
<p>worrywart - I found a good job board that focuses solely on his industry - not using monster or indeed. I am also checking websites of potential employers directly. So - yes - I do agree completely with that advice.</p>
<p>He wrote back this morning and thanked me for what I was sending - but went on to say that the position he wants is not generally an advertised opening. What? I have no idea what this even means. Does he think that the xyz company is going to create a specific job just for him? I responded with the analogy of applying to college and having a few safety schools - trying to encourage him to apply for some posted openings that are in his field - even if they are not the dream job.</p>
<p>I am afraid reality is going to kick this kid in the ass.</p>
<p>I too was sending my daughter job postings, until she sent me a curt email, “STOPPPPP!”.
She found her job on her own. IMHO, now that she has graduated, the rest of her life is up to her. Maybe reality kicking someone in the ass is what needs to happen. My sister is still supporting her 28-year-old son, who has been “volunteering” in Peru for three years now! If she stopped sending him $1000 a month, I’m sure he’d find a way to support himself. I understand helping your kids get on their feet, but at some point they need to stand on their own, even if it’s hard at first.</p>
<p>My sister’s son, after two years, finally found a job working at a garden center. He wanted a job as a park ranger, as he has a degree in biology, but with college loans coming due and construction job managers running away with the payroll, he’s thrilled to find a real paying job. The company shuts down for three months a year, so don’t know what he’ll do during those times.</p>
<p>Sister wants him to live at home to save his money, but he wants his own place, with roomies to share expenses. I’m like, What, are you kidding me, let him go! She says the downside is that his older brother, who has his own place because he’s got a live in girlfriend, is constantly asking to borrow money to meet his expenses, even though he’s got a job.</p>
<p>Quick update - finally had a good conversation with S1 last night. I now have a much better understanding of the position he wants and where he wants it. He has one very good possibility, and should know the outcome soon, maybe even this week.</p>
<p>My concern is that he is approaching this in a very linear fashion. He is going to wait and see what happens with this first potential job, before doing any further searching. I would prefer it if he applied for other positions simultaneously, but why quibble over something that should be determined soon. At least now he is willing to discuss!</p>
<p>Great news RVM!! I’ll keep my fingers crossed that it all works out and the offer is what he is hoping for.</p>
<p>You may not like his process, RVM, but, if he can land a job, that may not matter. Glad he was more willing to talk to you. I hope he gets the job.</p>
<p>Thank you both. I am praying this offer comes through.</p>
<p>RVM, I’ll keep my fingers crossed for your son to get that offer. I know that the waiting is very hard.</p>
<p>After my “advice” lost my son an internship, I have encouraged him NOT to discuss job decisions with me and asking him to ask someone who knows about the field. Of course I worry and it’s driving me crazy. But, he has found a paid internship for the summer on the other coast. Here’s hoping I buy him a 2 way ticket and he can’t use the return!</p>
<p>RVM, I too have fingers, toes and even eyeballs crossed for good news to come your way and soon. So glad your son finally laid out his gameplan for you.</p>
<p>Thank you!</p>
<p>One of the things I realized last night is that he is very stressed out as well. He mentioned how this is all anyone talks about - everyone is constantly asking what his plans are - the two friends he shares an apartment with do not have jobs yet - it really does not sound like fun. The last thing he needs is his mother nagging him.</p>
<p>So - I am hoping for the best - and am going to wait for him to update me.</p>
<p>^^^That’s so true. My DS says it’s the same at his B-school where everyone is comparing offers. He lives with three fellow students, two of whom still haven’t lined up an internship, and it’s a very tense environment. To destress, they had a Mad Men season premiere party at their place Sunday night.</p>
<p>oldfort, you asked awhile ago what field my son was interested in. I thought he was interested in finance, but it turns out his major is Finance (duh!) and he wants to go into Non-profits. And his internships were on the consulting-side, so he had a few clients that I recognized. Turns out, he only spoke about the ones I might know that he was “allowed” to mention. He’s still looking, but has a few possibilities out there by now.</p>
<p>No news here. Son is still waiting on this one job possibility. I cannot believe they are stringing him along like this. The only thing I have learned is that he does not plan to return home to live after graduation. Which is fine, I think he is better off being on his own. I told him we will help him to the extent that we can, but that he needs to be as close to self supporting as possible. I cannot believe that he graduates in just under a month and has no plan in place. His lease is up in 6 weeks. I just wish I could hear a plan. Even a skeleton of a plan. I am just beside myself. At the rate he s going, he is going to be living in his car in 6 weeks.</p>
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<p>I could also not believe the total lack of consideration on the part of companies that DS interviewed with. One time he had driven four hour each way for an interview and they did not even have the courtesy to respond one way or another.</p>
<p>Have faith. As Sonny said in The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel–“Everything will be all right in the end… if it’s not all right then it’s not yet the end.” After eight months at home DS had his choice of two jobs and I think he is really excited about the offer he accepted. Moving out next month. :)</p>